Viva la difference
Just had a really silly-because-it's-so-obvious a hah moment.
The beauty of not buying in wholeheart to interests of your partner's if they don't really interest you? Is that when you can bring your partner A Thing that's relevant to those interests--even if that Thing is just a link--they know that in the middle of your usual wandering, you kept them in mind.
The beauty of not buying in wholeheart to interests of your partner's if they don't really interest you? Is that when you can bring your partner A Thing that's relevant to those interests--even if that Thing is just a link--they know that in the middle of your usual wandering, you kept them in mind.