Something to chew on
In all my years on the planet, I haven't run into this in any major way before. I've had training in somatic sex education and Taoist practices, so I really come from a place of openness about all things sensual. I am seeing someone who won't go down on me. Yet together we have this electric, ecstatic, sexual chemistry that lasts for hours when we both have the time and capacity for it to. He is capable of having lengthy conversations about feminism, diversity, equity, and inclusion. He's well traveled. We've had many intellectual conversations, music, science, health and wellness products, you name it.
I have yet to investigate his reasoning, but I'm about to. Female pleasure and orgasm are a big piece of the pie. He clearly wants me to be in my pleasure. He cares that I orgasm. He loves foreplay. I had a question for him last night. It was that, could we do things differently next time? I g spot and g spot orgasm pretty easily with him. Penetration does not make me orgasm though. Could he focus more on clitoral stimulation. He then asked if I had had a clitoral orgasm with him before, and I said truthfully, no. He seemed shocked and asked if I'd ever had one. I said yes, easily by myself but not as easily with partners. What I didn't mention was that it's pretty easy with oral sex. I didn't want to hurt his feelings, but that's getting a little old considering all of this is at the expense of my pleasure, which is just as valid as his.
So my plan is really to investigate and share how much having that kind of orgasm with a partner, with him, means. However we get there. I want to explore with him. So much so that I've gotten back into reading books by Mantak Chia for help, since they were my go to when I trained to become a somatic sex educator.
Let's get experimental and creative about our sensual pursuits. There. You have another update that didn't take the better part of a year to write.
C