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Yesterday my sister told me that our grandfather forgot her birthday, a typical occurrence. Happens every year. My mother called to remind him and he sent a be-lated card hand writing this "sorry this is late. my office was being painted. happy birthday"
I don't know if I've ever heard of a more absurd card. What was he thinking when he wrote that? But its not worth questioning. Its just worth laughing at. My sister didn't take it personally (nor do I) because we have no relationship with our grandfather as you can probably guess by his birthday sentiment. He lives in Florida. We barely see him.
So today I tell a "friend" in my program about this incident. I laugh as I read what the card said.
Me: Isn't that ridiculous?
Her: So? If thats the worst thing that has ever happened to your family then you are lucky. Its just a missed birthday. My brother never came to my sweet sixteen because he was visiting his girl friend in the mid-west. He never came to my graduation. He missed many important milestones in my life. I have a shitty brother.
At that point I didn't know how to respond. I'm sorry you hate your brother? Why would she assume that was the worst thing that has happened to my family? Did I imply that? Was my tone of voice off in some way? I was simply making a point about how absurd it is that he couldn't just write "sorry this is late. happy birthday" as if saying "the office was being painted" was a good excuse. Its just something to laugh about. How some humans really aren't human at all.
And you know what? My family has faced much worse- thank you very much for asking. My mother had breast cancer when I was in high school. I've had family members die. I've broken my ankle. My best friend betrayed me my senior year of high school making my life a living hell. My grandfather doesn't care about my family.
You're brother missing your sweet 16 isn't a big deal to me (its just a party, right?). But I'm not going to judge you for it because it was a big deal to you and thats all that matters in the end.
Its times like these when you realize how bitter and ignorant people can be. The grudges people hold. Surprisingly, I look back on all the bad and don't feel upset or angry. My mother is still living, I can walk, my best friend apologized a year later and we are good friends now. I don't have feelings for my grandfather, but helps pay my way through school so he can miss my birthday for all I care.
In my opinion that comment was rude and unnecessary. I finally explained what I meant and she said "yeah I guess..."
I don't know why I'm telling you this. Its really not important. People have rude conversations all the time. This has just been a rough week and that feels like the last straw.
I don't know if I've ever heard of a more absurd card. What was he thinking when he wrote that? But its not worth questioning. Its just worth laughing at. My sister didn't take it personally (nor do I) because we have no relationship with our grandfather as you can probably guess by his birthday sentiment. He lives in Florida. We barely see him.
So today I tell a "friend" in my program about this incident. I laugh as I read what the card said.
Me: Isn't that ridiculous?
Her: So? If thats the worst thing that has ever happened to your family then you are lucky. Its just a missed birthday. My brother never came to my sweet sixteen because he was visiting his girl friend in the mid-west. He never came to my graduation. He missed many important milestones in my life. I have a shitty brother.
At that point I didn't know how to respond. I'm sorry you hate your brother? Why would she assume that was the worst thing that has happened to my family? Did I imply that? Was my tone of voice off in some way? I was simply making a point about how absurd it is that he couldn't just write "sorry this is late. happy birthday" as if saying "the office was being painted" was a good excuse. Its just something to laugh about. How some humans really aren't human at all.
And you know what? My family has faced much worse- thank you very much for asking. My mother had breast cancer when I was in high school. I've had family members die. I've broken my ankle. My best friend betrayed me my senior year of high school making my life a living hell. My grandfather doesn't care about my family.
You're brother missing your sweet 16 isn't a big deal to me (its just a party, right?). But I'm not going to judge you for it because it was a big deal to you and thats all that matters in the end.
Its times like these when you realize how bitter and ignorant people can be. The grudges people hold. Surprisingly, I look back on all the bad and don't feel upset or angry. My mother is still living, I can walk, my best friend apologized a year later and we are good friends now. I don't have feelings for my grandfather, but helps pay my way through school so he can miss my birthday for all I care.
In my opinion that comment was rude and unnecessary. I finally explained what I meant and she said "yeah I guess..."
I don't know why I'm telling you this. Its really not important. People have rude conversations all the time. This has just been a rough week and that feels like the last straw.