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So there may be quite a few entries about this. If you get bored just skip untill I write something that isn't a vent.
I just can't see how two people need to butt heads no matter what the situation. It gets to a point where both parties are "right" and no one is willing to compramize. Andrew made a split decision to univite his parents without asking me and made me look like an ass to the person who is already mad. I appologized to his father who takes things very well. He understands but I know she won't. I really tried to stay neutral in this but it's getting hard when people make decision without my consultation.
I've made the decision to start reading up on Yoga and buhddist princaples so I can try to not be affected by these arguements. It reminds me of when my father and brother would go at it every evening and I would walk and scream at them and then leave to take a walk. It never helped me and only worsened the situation. If I can build a center to view my emotions and be able to deal with them without being adversly affected then perhaps I can become better and coping with this.
I did some breathing exercises last night before I went to bed that was recommended by the magazine article in Tricycle that I read and it helped me come down off the emotional high and sleep. Probably the best sleep I've had all week here. His father lent me some material that explains the basic princaples of eastern religion and I'm going to read that and go from there.
I just wish both of them would take this kind of a path and figure out that arguing over these things isn't getting anything done but making the people you love upset and uncomfortable with you. I hope this works for me.
I just can't see how two people need to butt heads no matter what the situation. It gets to a point where both parties are "right" and no one is willing to compramize. Andrew made a split decision to univite his parents without asking me and made me look like an ass to the person who is already mad. I appologized to his father who takes things very well. He understands but I know she won't. I really tried to stay neutral in this but it's getting hard when people make decision without my consultation.
I've made the decision to start reading up on Yoga and buhddist princaples so I can try to not be affected by these arguements. It reminds me of when my father and brother would go at it every evening and I would walk and scream at them and then leave to take a walk. It never helped me and only worsened the situation. If I can build a center to view my emotions and be able to deal with them without being adversly affected then perhaps I can become better and coping with this.
I did some breathing exercises last night before I went to bed that was recommended by the magazine article in Tricycle that I read and it helped me come down off the emotional high and sleep. Probably the best sleep I've had all week here. His father lent me some material that explains the basic princaples of eastern religion and I'm going to read that and go from there.
I just wish both of them would take this kind of a path and figure out that arguing over these things isn't getting anything done but making the people you love upset and uncomfortable with you. I hope this works for me.