Sometimes I get to write :)
It's raining today, so here is a recap of December - March 9 lol
Derrick and his fiance Jordan came for Christmas, it was fun having them here for an extended visit. We tried to take them everywhere and do everything, it was exhausting.
My run for County School Board went well, for a girl "not from around here" I lost by 10 votes only, was a huge deal around here and real life politics vary very little from the SCA with the exception that real life politics you have much fewer encounters with confused people who heard gossip from angry bitter old women (not my only poke at an evil older women today but a start). LOL
Florida was beautiful but cold. We got to spend some quality time with George and Beth and Morgan and Angelica, that was the best part for me. Although Beth and I lost and being scared by giant wizards the size of warehouses does still rate in my meandering nightmares at times :P Mittion was a total weener and did not make it up to Orlando, but I understand life sucks when you are temporarily down to sharing a car due to crashing and crunching metal :(
A few days after Florida literally was Estrella. It was wonderful weather this year, I wish my sister had gone, I talked to her on the way home from the war and told her she missed the sunshine, she needs to come out more. A&S was fun, I got to work and spend it with people I love and miss, so it was double cool. I think I have worked out a Country Earl/City Earl exchange with another beautiful Duchess, so maybe there is fabric stores and tea houses in my future *rofl* that is if the Earl's don't just ignore us girls :P Shopping was insane, every year it seems it takes me seven or eight hours between getting stopped to chat by old friends and wrangling the shopping entourage. This year however they were on Duncan's side and he came home with a wonderful coat from An Tir, it stung to pay for it but it will last him a life time. That man is a sucker for anything with Lions on it, I swear.....
The Outlands party was wonderful, I had a really good view of the Tynkers this year, they are amazing. It got so cold at night tho I was in early most nights except the night I had to help organize the processional for Katrai's vigil. That was a neat thing, to be asked to have people participate in the opening Calontiri ceremony, it was very special indeed.
We didn't stay on site, Duncan did the last days/nights, but Thurs/Fri/Sat nights we stayed in the golf resort about 30 miles away. It was very pretty and amazingly more reasonable than the local hotels. It had a big bathtub, and you know how I am a mermaid and all lol.
The war was happy and bitter sweet. Seeing so many I love and miss from Atenveldt, new friends from the Outlands, good friends from An Tir and Caid and the West and Calontir was cool. Hearing about deaths, friends battling cancer, old and dear friends making huge life changes, it was sad. Seeing someone I once loved and cherished as a friend become something worse than I had to banish back in the early 90s has been hard these last years, getting a first hand look at the wreckage she has caused makes me even sadder.
The thing about that woman is that most of us as we get older, walk a little slower, dislike the cold a bit more, but encourage and give a hand up to the next generations. In other words, we don't eat our young. I have watched a woman I once stood up for strongly in public, one I thought was my friend, become bitter and evil. I am sorry her husband was unfaithful, I didn't know. I am sorry some of her friends turned on her, it wasn't me. But being gone from the desert Kingdoms for a decade and coming home to rumors that were such amazing bullshit about myself and Duncan, pretty much all stemming from her radical turn of heart towards the rest of the known world, well.... that hurt me. But I am just one of hundreds, literally. I gleaned this uncomfortible knowlegde over the last 2 years when each time I appear in Atenveldt, there is a progress of people apologizing to me for things they listened too and didn't believe, and things they should have spoke out against and didn't. All I can say is, hey, I was gone, it doesn't matter. I am just sad to see someone who had such depths and wonder if their heart, (at least that is what I thought I saw) become so nasty and cruel. One word, and that word is kharama. sigh...
There is one rumor I will address in length. It is not anyone's business but you are getting it here and now, and if you have any questions, feel free to message me.
I left Atenveldt in 1998 with my then Fiance' Duncan. He had been in process of divorce from his wife Heather/Gina for over a year. She and I and she and he remain friends. They had decided on divorcing a year before they stepped down as B&B. Again no one's business.
She left him when their daughter Mairi was 2 years old. In fact Mairi and Tressa had their birthdays together, their birthdays are 11/29 and 11/30. I have pictures of so many of the Aten kids at these parties, one day I will post them :). Duncan and Gina's divorce was fairly friendly, a few minor bumps from a few creeps trying to interfere, but nothing new there. A rumor was spread by some guy I have never even met that Duncan left her while she was pregnant. I can tell you quite frankly she is going to punch the guy in the nose when she finds him. Some people are great friends but not so great married. That was Gina and Duncan. They both deserve better than bullshit like that.
Gina met most of Ansteorra while staying at our house on holidays, she and Mairi moved to Texas 9 months before Duncan and I moved that way to be closer to them. She is back east now to be close to her father who is getting up there in years. Duncan and Gina have joint custody. I know because I drafted the paperwork, they shared a lawyer. Again no one's business, but the rumor spreading busy body needs to get his reality somewhere....
Duncan was a great Baron of Mons, friendly and charismatic and helpful to anyone and everyone. It hurt me deeply to hear anyone would pass such lies or try to rub shit on his charactor just because I left a bad marriage to be with him. I loved my ex, but it didn't work for me for alot of reasons, thus 11 years almost ago, I made a life change. No one's business.
I went to the war this year and heard about 8 different royal couples splitting up. Some of them were close, some not. But it breaks my heart than a royal couple splits and the shit starts flying. Life is life people. Anyone who listens to that stuff and passes it on with intent to entertain or cause pain is plain evil.
Enough on that subject.
So I left the war early to see my son, in Tennasee. He had the lead in "Summer and Smoke" which made me double laugh because Mrs Ancient Evil's husband once told me he felt his life was like a Tennasee Williams play, there it is: the only secret he ever shared with me that has left my lips in print for you to enjoy. Some of us keep our confidences for life ;).
Derrick was awesome, winning a partial scholarhip for his performance. I was there 10 days, I have to say I didn't miss tearing down at Estrella or post war clean up, but the Tennasee weather was crappy in comparison. I was a college kid again for 10 days, sleeping on a futon in my son's room which he surrendered to me and eating in weird college cafes. I loved it :D
I came home from Tennasee to pass out for a day, then between birthing goats, sheep, chasing baby cows, building a new hen house, armor parties, BBQ"s Tressa's never ending sports and school schedule, I am tired.
I pretty much never talk on the phone anymore, no time. This is the place to find me, via email for those rare moments I get to sit and read or write.
Of course then there is the amorus husband, who is younger and can run faster than I.
I know this post is kinda weird. I have many mixed emotions about all I witnessed at Estrella. Overall it was an awesome war for me. But the overtones of some of the Aten dynamics made my heart sad and brought me back to memories best left behind for me, so it had weird moments. I loved that Kingdom, I hate seeing the pain there.
I guess I am luckier than most. The worst I have in my life is those moments where my husband or daughter annoy me to frustration. I have someone who adores me, two awesome kids, a cool ranch and toys and critters and peace. Most of all I have a happy marriage, which seems to be a titan treasure these days.
More eventually, maybe lol.
Derrick and his fiance Jordan came for Christmas, it was fun having them here for an extended visit. We tried to take them everywhere and do everything, it was exhausting.
My run for County School Board went well, for a girl "not from around here" I lost by 10 votes only, was a huge deal around here and real life politics vary very little from the SCA with the exception that real life politics you have much fewer encounters with confused people who heard gossip from angry bitter old women (not my only poke at an evil older women today but a start). LOL
Florida was beautiful but cold. We got to spend some quality time with George and Beth and Morgan and Angelica, that was the best part for me. Although Beth and I lost and being scared by giant wizards the size of warehouses does still rate in my meandering nightmares at times :P Mittion was a total weener and did not make it up to Orlando, but I understand life sucks when you are temporarily down to sharing a car due to crashing and crunching metal :(
A few days after Florida literally was Estrella. It was wonderful weather this year, I wish my sister had gone, I talked to her on the way home from the war and told her she missed the sunshine, she needs to come out more. A&S was fun, I got to work and spend it with people I love and miss, so it was double cool. I think I have worked out a Country Earl/City Earl exchange with another beautiful Duchess, so maybe there is fabric stores and tea houses in my future *rofl* that is if the Earl's don't just ignore us girls :P Shopping was insane, every year it seems it takes me seven or eight hours between getting stopped to chat by old friends and wrangling the shopping entourage. This year however they were on Duncan's side and he came home with a wonderful coat from An Tir, it stung to pay for it but it will last him a life time. That man is a sucker for anything with Lions on it, I swear.....
The Outlands party was wonderful, I had a really good view of the Tynkers this year, they are amazing. It got so cold at night tho I was in early most nights except the night I had to help organize the processional for Katrai's vigil. That was a neat thing, to be asked to have people participate in the opening Calontiri ceremony, it was very special indeed.
We didn't stay on site, Duncan did the last days/nights, but Thurs/Fri/Sat nights we stayed in the golf resort about 30 miles away. It was very pretty and amazingly more reasonable than the local hotels. It had a big bathtub, and you know how I am a mermaid and all lol.
The war was happy and bitter sweet. Seeing so many I love and miss from Atenveldt, new friends from the Outlands, good friends from An Tir and Caid and the West and Calontir was cool. Hearing about deaths, friends battling cancer, old and dear friends making huge life changes, it was sad. Seeing someone I once loved and cherished as a friend become something worse than I had to banish back in the early 90s has been hard these last years, getting a first hand look at the wreckage she has caused makes me even sadder.
The thing about that woman is that most of us as we get older, walk a little slower, dislike the cold a bit more, but encourage and give a hand up to the next generations. In other words, we don't eat our young. I have watched a woman I once stood up for strongly in public, one I thought was my friend, become bitter and evil. I am sorry her husband was unfaithful, I didn't know. I am sorry some of her friends turned on her, it wasn't me. But being gone from the desert Kingdoms for a decade and coming home to rumors that were such amazing bullshit about myself and Duncan, pretty much all stemming from her radical turn of heart towards the rest of the known world, well.... that hurt me. But I am just one of hundreds, literally. I gleaned this uncomfortible knowlegde over the last 2 years when each time I appear in Atenveldt, there is a progress of people apologizing to me for things they listened too and didn't believe, and things they should have spoke out against and didn't. All I can say is, hey, I was gone, it doesn't matter. I am just sad to see someone who had such depths and wonder if their heart, (at least that is what I thought I saw) become so nasty and cruel. One word, and that word is kharama. sigh...
There is one rumor I will address in length. It is not anyone's business but you are getting it here and now, and if you have any questions, feel free to message me.
I left Atenveldt in 1998 with my then Fiance' Duncan. He had been in process of divorce from his wife Heather/Gina for over a year. She and I and she and he remain friends. They had decided on divorcing a year before they stepped down as B&B. Again no one's business.
She left him when their daughter Mairi was 2 years old. In fact Mairi and Tressa had their birthdays together, their birthdays are 11/29 and 11/30. I have pictures of so many of the Aten kids at these parties, one day I will post them :). Duncan and Gina's divorce was fairly friendly, a few minor bumps from a few creeps trying to interfere, but nothing new there. A rumor was spread by some guy I have never even met that Duncan left her while she was pregnant. I can tell you quite frankly she is going to punch the guy in the nose when she finds him. Some people are great friends but not so great married. That was Gina and Duncan. They both deserve better than bullshit like that.
Gina met most of Ansteorra while staying at our house on holidays, she and Mairi moved to Texas 9 months before Duncan and I moved that way to be closer to them. She is back east now to be close to her father who is getting up there in years. Duncan and Gina have joint custody. I know because I drafted the paperwork, they shared a lawyer. Again no one's business, but the rumor spreading busy body needs to get his reality somewhere....
Duncan was a great Baron of Mons, friendly and charismatic and helpful to anyone and everyone. It hurt me deeply to hear anyone would pass such lies or try to rub shit on his charactor just because I left a bad marriage to be with him. I loved my ex, but it didn't work for me for alot of reasons, thus 11 years almost ago, I made a life change. No one's business.
I went to the war this year and heard about 8 different royal couples splitting up. Some of them were close, some not. But it breaks my heart than a royal couple splits and the shit starts flying. Life is life people. Anyone who listens to that stuff and passes it on with intent to entertain or cause pain is plain evil.
Enough on that subject.
So I left the war early to see my son, in Tennasee. He had the lead in "Summer and Smoke" which made me double laugh because Mrs Ancient Evil's husband once told me he felt his life was like a Tennasee Williams play, there it is: the only secret he ever shared with me that has left my lips in print for you to enjoy. Some of us keep our confidences for life ;).
Derrick was awesome, winning a partial scholarhip for his performance. I was there 10 days, I have to say I didn't miss tearing down at Estrella or post war clean up, but the Tennasee weather was crappy in comparison. I was a college kid again for 10 days, sleeping on a futon in my son's room which he surrendered to me and eating in weird college cafes. I loved it :D
I came home from Tennasee to pass out for a day, then between birthing goats, sheep, chasing baby cows, building a new hen house, armor parties, BBQ"s Tressa's never ending sports and school schedule, I am tired.
I pretty much never talk on the phone anymore, no time. This is the place to find me, via email for those rare moments I get to sit and read or write.
Of course then there is the amorus husband, who is younger and can run faster than I.
I know this post is kinda weird. I have many mixed emotions about all I witnessed at Estrella. Overall it was an awesome war for me. But the overtones of some of the Aten dynamics made my heart sad and brought me back to memories best left behind for me, so it had weird moments. I loved that Kingdom, I hate seeing the pain there.
I guess I am luckier than most. The worst I have in my life is those moments where my husband or daughter annoy me to frustration. I have someone who adores me, two awesome kids, a cool ranch and toys and critters and peace. Most of all I have a happy marriage, which seems to be a titan treasure these days.
More eventually, maybe lol.