One more thing, is there any girl who feels she WASNT sexually molested. Cause it seems like every girl has a story. Even Oprah... I dont think its easier to molest a girl over a guy. They both have nipples, both have genitals...both have holes, so I think the chances of a guy raping a guy or a guy raping a girl are about the same. But why do you hear more girls talk about their expiriences, over guys. Especially gay guys. I know one gay guy who said he was raped, and Im skeptical cause hes the type who brags about owning a Leprechaun. Im not saying it didnt happen, just that hes the only guy I know to claim assault. So why do you hear it from more girls? Again Im not minimizing your situation at all, Im just curious and more then likely naive.
I know plenty of women who have not been raped, molested, or otherwise sexually assaulted. Yes, it is much easier to molest a girl over a guy. (Lynn has extensive knowledge of gender studies, from what I understand, she probably knows better than me-- PS, feel free to argue any of this, I haven't taken too many classes, :) ) There is social conscruction of gender where women are taught to be a certain way and men are taught to be a certain way. Men also often (but yes, not always) have the advantage of size over a woman. Most sexual perpetrators are MEN. Most victims are WOMEN. Regardless of how you want to dispute the actual numbers, these statements are FACT. Yes, women can rape and molest men, but we are less socially ingrained to do so. There are FAR higher numbers of female victims than male victims
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Right well Im not trying to get into anything, I dont want ya getting defensive, but I wasnt talkign about women molesting men, I was talking about men molesting men. Im saying I could know 20 girls, 18 of which claimed to be raped, yet I could know 40 gay males, and only 3 of which would claim to be raped. Thats all. I just wondered is the gay community keeps it hidden, or if women sometimes, but probably rarely, play it up.
1) Same-sex rape does happen, which suggests that it's a power issue and not just the patriarchy trying to subordinate women (as some theorists posit). And there have been cases where women have raped men. (More support for the power argument.) Same-sex rape doesn't get reported as much because a) all the same reasons some women don't report it b) it would be viewed as bad PR for the community and c) it's not discussed in the same way women are educated about it. They don't necessarily have access to the same information and language that women do, precisely because it's traditionally viewed as a statistical anomaly
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Again Im not minimizing your situation at all, Im just curious and more then likely naive.
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