Several Degrees Shy of a Hot Property...

Sep 04, 2006 23:54

Hey Kids,

It is not in my character to not express the things that I'm feeling, even if the venue of expression is significantly more public and the subject matter is something I worry, possibly in my melo-dramatic-would-be artist way, that no one will understand, or be able to respect. If you don't care, skip the first cut:

Can't Sell This Drama )

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sharpsight September 5 2006, 12:15:34 UTC
N) About your 'inviting everyone in': out of curiosity, have you ever been (cruelly/deliberately/[because of utter stupidity, but having the same effect as the other alternatives]) betrayed? A brief hypothesis comes to mind, though it's probably false.

Talespin... *recalls that*

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ktwilight September 5 2006, 14:00:12 UTC
I don't like going on about this on LJ because it's so easy to turn into one of those "oh poor me" entries, and because I prefer to emphasize the person I am, rather than the negative things in my past, even if they did help to make me as I am today.

That said, you did ask, so yes. As a child I was treated very badly by my peers in many ways, and one of those ways was being betrayed by people I got close to.

I have often wondered if I am this way because I need to make up for having not been accepted and loved when I was young. I'm sure at least a part of it is my personality, but it may be that the rest is a symptom of feeling lonely and rejected for so long.

What's your hypothesis?

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sharpsight September 5 2006, 14:39:46 UTC
N) Sorry, I should have thought of that before asking.

Ahh. (There goes that hypothesis.)

Hmm. It's possible... [/over]compensation, basically. *nods* That could make sense.

It was that if you hadn't ever seriously been hurt, that could explain why you found it difficult to put up mental walls against letting yourself become open to others, but it was a random idea to investigate as a possible reason rather than a concept founded in any understanding of the human psyche's development. Since you know far more about your past and history than I do (or probably ever can), you're probably in the best position to arrive at accurate or near-accurate hypotheses.

Apologies again for trying to pry into things I couldn't help with.

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ktwilight September 5 2006, 15:18:17 UTC
no worries. I am truly touched, both that you are interested, and that you wanted to provide your observations. If I didn't care what anyone thought, I wouldn't post my feelings in a public journal.
As long as people are respectful and not too judgemental, I welcome the comments. :')

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pancake_syrup September 5 2006, 14:35:59 UTC
awww, ralph!!!
while i don't think that its a bad things to want to be close to lots of people and be able to share yourself so much with those that you meet and who you feel a connection with, it can be really hurtful to the person your in a relationship with to know that you feel that way about other people, and that you have such a connection. because not only do you feel that connection, which would be hurtful in itself, but also you are acting on those feelings. while some people don't belive in'emotional adultry', others do and would probably consider this to be that. i guess it all boils down to how you feel when or if this same things happens with, say, your girlfriend. but also there are no just your own feelings to consider. so all in all, i don't really know what i'm, talking about. but i think that if you worry about being able to feel so close to so many people, maybe consider how terrible it would be if you couldn't feel a connection to anybody at all.....
and that old man sound annoying....

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sharpsight September 5 2006, 14:55:08 UTC
N) A mental image that comes to mind: a person with Tourette's being asked why they still behave as they do, knowing how much it hurts the asker, who doesn't like the behavior, previously asked for it to stop, and feels that the person in question doesn't care about their feelings, since the behavior continues ( ... )

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ktwilight September 5 2006, 15:19:43 UTC
Perhaps a commenter on the sidelines is what I was hoping for in posting this. Your input is not only welcome, it's helpful. So thanks! :')

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ktwilight September 5 2006, 15:21:39 UTC
It just feels "complicated" I guess is the problem. And maybe it always will. I do do my best to avoid truly hurting anyone, and it is always my goal to be sure that the people I love are aware of my feelings, and of how special and beautiful I think they are. I think you yourself will be aware of that. :')

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lifelovefiction September 5 2006, 16:19:24 UTC
YAY I WAS MENTIONED...but not exactly.. but still.. i am happy.

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ktwilight September 5 2006, 16:23:36 UTC
I avoided using any names in here 'cause I didn't want to make it all weird, even though I didn't think you'd mind, I figured I'd play it safe. :')

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