I'm hot... I like fucking... but I'm not your on-demand porn.
Generally speaking?
An internet dick is an internet dick is an internet dick. I don't care how well-endowed you are; just because you have an erection, it doesn't mean I'm interested in seeing it.
Having been involved with sexually explicit aspects of the internet, and being female, I feel like the former fact gets exploited often. Sex is great, and the internet can be very sexually liberating. But just because I'm online and I've -done that- doesn't mean that I'm -always doing that-.
I posted this to feminist_rage awhile ago, and it sums it up better than I'm capable of at 5:18am:
Being a rather sexual female, one of the many things I like to use the internet for is for occasional sexual play.
But I hate, hate, hate how doing this ONCE with a person forever colors their perception of me. It's like because I've done it once, whenever I'm online, I'm supposed to be horny and spread and attractive and ready to be watched, or to be asked repeatedly if I'd like to watch them jack off.
No! I do not want to watch you jack off! I'm in the middle of a philosophical discussion with a good friend three states away. Or I'm reading about disability activism. Or I'm watching music videos from the '90s.
And then I wonder if I'm being too naive; if I should just accept this shit, because internet porn use is so high, and because what were webcams invented for if not for nudity?
Fuck that. Fuck second-guessing my gut feelings.
There is SO MUCH TO DO on the internet. Just because I'm online doesn't mean that I'm horny. I want to be able to be a female on the internet, who sometimes is horny while online and utilizes the internet as a fun way to be sexual with someone I wouldn't otherwise have the chance to, but who MOSTLY isn't, and who doesn't have to hear about how horny every guy is once they sign on in the privacy of their homes at 11pm. I also don't want to be bombarded with penises--just because I'm viewing your webcam doesn't necessarily mean I'm interested in your dick. Get creative, would you?
(Also posted at http://daughtercell.dreamwidth.org/354512.html. There are
comments there.)
An internet dick is an internet dick is an internet dick. I don't care how well-endowed you are; just because you have an erection, it doesn't mean I'm interested in seeing it.
Having been involved with sexually explicit aspects of the internet, and being female, I feel like the former fact gets exploited often. Sex is great, and the internet can be very sexually liberating. But just because I'm online and I've -done that- doesn't mean that I'm -always doing that-.
I posted this to feminist_rage awhile ago, and it sums it up better than I'm capable of at 5:18am:
Being a rather sexual female, one of the many things I like to use the internet for is for occasional sexual play.
But I hate, hate, hate how doing this ONCE with a person forever colors their perception of me. It's like because I've done it once, whenever I'm online, I'm supposed to be horny and spread and attractive and ready to be watched, or to be asked repeatedly if I'd like to watch them jack off.
No! I do not want to watch you jack off! I'm in the middle of a philosophical discussion with a good friend three states away. Or I'm reading about disability activism. Or I'm watching music videos from the '90s.
And then I wonder if I'm being too naive; if I should just accept this shit, because internet porn use is so high, and because what were webcams invented for if not for nudity?
Fuck that. Fuck second-guessing my gut feelings.
There is SO MUCH TO DO on the internet. Just because I'm online doesn't mean that I'm horny. I want to be able to be a female on the internet, who sometimes is horny while online and utilizes the internet as a fun way to be sexual with someone I wouldn't otherwise have the chance to, but who MOSTLY isn't, and who doesn't have to hear about how horny every guy is once they sign on in the privacy of their homes at 11pm. I also don't want to be bombarded with penises--just because I'm viewing your webcam doesn't necessarily mean I'm interested in your dick. Get creative, would you?
(Also posted at http://daughtercell.dreamwidth.org/354512.html. There are
comments there.)