Well that bombed
THis year I had hoped to have a T-Day diner at home with people I wanted to be with.
It was to be a good dinner, with good conversation, and good fun with no TV or computers in the way.
We were actually going to eat all together in hte same room at the same time and actually have a 'meal' together.
INSTEAD it turned into one person crying, one storming off into the night, an another very upset and yelling.
We got: Misunderstandings, hurt feelings on all 3 sides, frustrations, acusations and a streaming war movie
For one of the 2 special dinners in the whole year - all I wanted was a simple meal with friends..
Now I have to wait till everyone calms down (if they do without bearing a grudge about this dinner) , and try to repair the dammage.
I really don't know how to do dammage control right now.. I know time will help - but how do I calmly explain what I had wanted with this dinner?
Or should I have stated this ahead of time? How do I explain what I want(ed) without sounding like a demanding bitch?
It seems like all i am doing lately is getting depressed, being upset and not being able to explain what I would like.
I usually get statements like: you are too sensitive, you should let OTHERS have what they want once in a while!, you never ask - you demand or whine, watch what you say, whatch how you say things, being upset over the smallest things, you have an attitute, stop coping an attitude
now this dinner is ruined and no ammount of fixing is going to put it right again
It was to be a good dinner, with good conversation, and good fun with no TV or computers in the way.
We were actually going to eat all together in hte same room at the same time and actually have a 'meal' together.
INSTEAD it turned into one person crying, one storming off into the night, an another very upset and yelling.
We got: Misunderstandings, hurt feelings on all 3 sides, frustrations, acusations and a streaming war movie
For one of the 2 special dinners in the whole year - all I wanted was a simple meal with friends..
Now I have to wait till everyone calms down (if they do without bearing a grudge about this dinner) , and try to repair the dammage.
I really don't know how to do dammage control right now.. I know time will help - but how do I calmly explain what I had wanted with this dinner?
Or should I have stated this ahead of time? How do I explain what I want(ed) without sounding like a demanding bitch?
It seems like all i am doing lately is getting depressed, being upset and not being able to explain what I would like.
I usually get statements like: you are too sensitive, you should let OTHERS have what they want once in a while!, you never ask - you demand or whine, watch what you say, whatch how you say things, being upset over the smallest things, you have an attitute, stop coping an attitude
now this dinner is ruined and no ammount of fixing is going to put it right again