*sigh*
You know that list of 'missed opportunities' I seem to have been racking up?
Add one more.
I missed what will probably have been the best opportunity to come out to my parents today. Here's the story.
I went to work, not knowing I was off. When I was finally told, I was okay with it, then headed home. Or would have, but Dad needed me to pick him up. I mentioned wondering how I was going to say that I needed to leave work should Melanie have her baby (she asked us to be there). In so doing, I said Melanie was my best friend, at which point I had to explain that best friends for me change over time. When we got to the point that I'd said who my best friends were so far, he asked: "So, no girlfriends in sight?" "nope." "No boyfriends either?" I paused. Seriously, do you ask your son this while he's driving you home? "no." I acted casual. It was easier than I thought. I asked him why he'd asked, and he mentioned that during a conversation some years ago I mentioned something along the lines of the fact that I enjoyed guys around more than girls.
At dinner I was going to say, "Hey mom, Dad asked me this weird question earlier..." and that would have been that. Sitting there, I waited for a lull in conversation. After the second one, I just sat there, thinking to myself: "Yep. Perfect opportunity. Would have been fine because I know they'd be okay with it. Yep. Uh-huh." and then: "They don't really need to know. It's not like anything would change anyway." So I didn't say anything.
I don't know whether this is a good thing or a bad thing, but it was the closest thing to a decent opportunity to say something.
Add one more.
I missed what will probably have been the best opportunity to come out to my parents today. Here's the story.
I went to work, not knowing I was off. When I was finally told, I was okay with it, then headed home. Or would have, but Dad needed me to pick him up. I mentioned wondering how I was going to say that I needed to leave work should Melanie have her baby (she asked us to be there). In so doing, I said Melanie was my best friend, at which point I had to explain that best friends for me change over time. When we got to the point that I'd said who my best friends were so far, he asked: "So, no girlfriends in sight?" "nope." "No boyfriends either?" I paused. Seriously, do you ask your son this while he's driving you home? "no." I acted casual. It was easier than I thought. I asked him why he'd asked, and he mentioned that during a conversation some years ago I mentioned something along the lines of the fact that I enjoyed guys around more than girls.
At dinner I was going to say, "Hey mom, Dad asked me this weird question earlier..." and that would have been that. Sitting there, I waited for a lull in conversation. After the second one, I just sat there, thinking to myself: "Yep. Perfect opportunity. Would have been fine because I know they'd be okay with it. Yep. Uh-huh." and then: "They don't really need to know. It's not like anything would change anyway." So I didn't say anything.
I don't know whether this is a good thing or a bad thing, but it was the closest thing to a decent opportunity to say something.