Personality
School has been fun, hard, and painful at times. It is proving to be the dogfight that I am willing to jump in two hundred percent for. It is kind of like basketball - you have the chance to get injured, and most likely will to some extent, but the game and the people you play with are so exciting and so fun that the injuries do not ( Read more... )
You gots plenty to be confident about. You're tall, for one thing. This one TV show had a tall man and a midget race through a busy crowd in London and the tall man won. You can also use this natural attribute to gain influence over others. I hate to say it, but in many situations people subcontiously pick leaders due to their being tall.
You can do art, which is quite a feat if you've ever met anyone who for some reason or another can't draw a triangle without it looking like a drunken circle. You aren't too shallow either. Everybody hits a level of pretending to be something they're not once in a while, but people who do it all the time have no will, are bereft of imagination, and don't try to recognize it.
If you want to know the best way to successfully interact with others, it is the same as all skills and talents available: practice, practice, practice. While there may be a few social savants wondering the earth, most people don't reach any level of sophistication unless they open their mouth first. Also, remember that everbody else is also weird to one degree or another in relation to your own perspective. While some may seem to take to large social engagements like a fish in water, they may struggle with other actions or concepts that come easily to you.
Its like when we Shadowrun, you don't need to have Language skills of +20 to get by or even a weapons skill of +10 to fire a gun (I'm a +1, I think). Usually a +3 is the standard for average and that's all anybody ever really needs in basic skills. Not every dice rolls a six every time, sometimes you just roll consecutive ones, puts don't drop, jokes fall flat, but everybody does it. Watch a group of people lets say in a party situation and make notice of how many times other people's jokes, ideas, or anecdotes fail to find an audience, or are ill-received. It happens more often than most people notice. Hiding won't do you any good because you're tall and it is near to impossible to hide a sequoia in a plain field of wheatgerm. Experiment. Find out what interaction behaviors work best for you. Some social patterns that may seem to accomodate others may not suit you. That's normal, try something else until you find something that works and then build on it. You'll find your niche sooner or later, I know it! Keep on keeping on.
Sheesh, this is a long comment, Cheers!
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This is rather odd to me to try and comment back on something that seems pretty personal to me, but that shouldn't matter. I really appreciate your advice, Al. I am trying to just straighten up and jump in. It is true that no one can really learn except through trial and error. I am going to try and set myself on the line a little more and not care so much.
P.S. Now I want a picture of a sequoia in a wheat field for an icon. ^_^
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As for the randomly coherent linking of advice and analogies--its a gift...and a curse...and you are totally welcome. That's what friends are for, right?
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