So, a thing I just saw about fangirls and why they like certain characters struck me, and makes me want to check with people.

Is fangirling characters, for you, primarily about finding them attractive? Physically or emotionally or intellectually or whatever? Is there, on any level, a way in which you think about them in the context of a ( Read more... )

I have a friend who has a friend who is asexual, and she's going to introduce me. And I'm mostly excited about it, but also increasingly nervous. I've never met another one in real life, except Krissy and she didn't know she was at the time. It's always just reading people's blogs and stuff online. What if she doesn't like me and thinks I'm not ( Read more... )

...And there was one really insulting bit where he asked me if I didn't ever want to have a relationship, and I was like "that depends a lot of the kind of relationship," and I talked about how I do want to have someone to talk to and eat dinner with and to take me to the hospital if I get sick, that sort of stuff, and he was like "yeah, but that's ( Read more... )

I came out to/was dragged out by (?) a guy at work. You know how sometimes people get on that track, are you married, do you have a boyfriend--no? Why not? And then maybe you start to wish you'd changed the subject somewhere back earlier in the conversation/interrogation but that doesn't occur to you until it's wayyyyyyyy too late ( Read more... )

Actually had a conversation with my mom about asexuality where I felt heard and acknowledged. It was. Such a huge relief. It's not that she blew me off before exactly, but I couldn't seem to make her understand that it was important. I feel like all the stuff I've read off the Asexual Agenda blog has really helped me think about this stuff, and ( Read more... )

Omg, the Asexual Agenda blog is so amazing. It was starting to feel like the only thing anyone had to say about asexuality was "no, it totally does exist" and variations thereof, even within the communities I usually looked at. As big a deal as that was the first time I heard it, it stops being all that interesting after a while. But they have ( Read more... )

I am claiming Sirius as asexual. He can go in the box with Luke Skywalker, non-pon-farring-Spock and pre-season-3-Zuko. Never married, no girlfriend or boyfriend ever mentioned at all, didn't notice girls staring at him in class; he may have had those posters on his wall, but that hardly counts for anything. They were non-moving muggle posters ( Read more... )

I have a sudoku puzzle that he printed off for me when he found out I liked them, because there was a lot of dead time when we were just sitting around trying to entertain ourselves ( Read more... )

I wonder if the strength of my reaction to him, and my melancholy now that he's gone, is partly about a discontent with my current life and social circle. If I need to be seeking out friends who are more... well, like that. Patient and calm, quiet without being shy, able to be themselves because they're not trying to impress other people ( Read more... )

Gave my cards away. It was stupid and awkward--I never know how to do it--but it got done! And he actually spent a little time looking at it, and asked me about how I made it and stuff ♦♦♦♦

Also, I scanned them if you guys want to see. ( Read more... )