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kisforkurama

[soapbox] nonmonogamy is not the devil

Mar 19, 2011 10:28

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Day 68, Word Count: 778
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Reili on a Soapbox
Today's Topic: Why I believe nonmonogamy is not the devil and how I ended up polyamorous.

( My name is Reili, and I have a girlfriend who has a girlfriend in addition to a fuckbuddy. I'm happy, are you? )

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teh_slush March 19 2011, 19:16:59 UTC

Really I can't say anything on the matter besides THIS RIGHT HERE. RELATIONSHIPS ARE CONFUSING. I DON'T GET THEM. BUT THIS MAKES SENSE TO ME.

kisforkurama March 20 2011, 01:56:38 UTC

OH MAN RELATIONSHIPS ARE SO CONFUSING it's not just you I think everyone has wanted to bang their head against the wall because of a relationship at some point.

1st_eggokage March 19 2011, 20:16:14 UTC

/nuzzles

thank you. just... thank you.

kisforkurama March 20 2011, 01:54:56 UTC

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kisforkurama March 20 2011, 01:54:33 UTC

This is not hard and fast, obviously, but to me sex is on the level of watching a movie as an activity. S, if Sara wants to watch a movie then we watch a movie. If Sara wants to have sex, we have sex. Except when I say it like that, people are like "that's . . . like. what." and then I have to explain that it's not that I don't want to have sex, it's just that sex is less of something I do because my body needs it and more something I do because it's nice?

I guess it's similar to social drinking. It's not that I don't want the drink, it's just that I'm perfectly fine without it. This is where asexuality differs from celibacy in that with celibacy you make the conscious choice not to engage in sex, regardless of how much you want to have sex.

Also it's a matter of logistics, her fuckbuddy actually lives in I want to say it's Pennsylvania but I could be mistaken. So when Sara and I are in the same place, she's nowhere near her fuckbuddy, ect.

1st_eggokage March 20 2011, 05:14:13 UTC

/insinuates self into conversation

dev's from connecticut actually. /o/

kisforkurama March 20 2011, 06:02:58 UTC

I DON'T REMEMBER WHERE ANYONE IS FROM. I tell people my roommate is from Narnia, okay.

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lady_flamewing March 20 2011, 07:22:58 UTC

YESSSS. This is why I hesitate to even TELL people that I'm in an open relationship, 'cause mostly they look at me like I'm...crazy, or a huge slut or something.

kisforkurama March 20 2011, 07:27:49 UTC

ahahaha I know that look.

People ask sometimes, and I tell them I have a girlfriend. And then I politely correct them and say I'm asexual, but by that time their minds are completely blown and we usually don't get past "you're a what." but sometimes we do and they're just like "why are you the most confusing person ever an open relationship means you're like. a slut."

lady_flamewing March 20 2011, 08:17:46 UTC

I think the other thing that really confuses people is that they expect my BF to have taken advantage of the situation - but I'm the only one who has.

Everyone always asks, "Don't you get jealous?", and I'm always like, "Nope. But that's probably 'cause nothing's happened with him - apparently, I have more game than my boyfriend."

And then I just get that look again. WHY ARE RELATIONSHIPS SO HARD?

kisforkurama March 20 2011, 08:27:50 UTC

I get a lot of "well, you're asexual so you wouldn't take advantage anyway" and I'm like "ahahaha you're funny. I will eventually JUST YOU WAIT actually I'm waiting for someone to turn legal." and they look at me like I've turned into a mushroom or something idk.

but yeah RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD sigh sigh why do people assume I'm lying when I talk about my love life?

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