Where the sidewalk ends.

[kirsten85]

Can lovers turn into friends? This is a question that I have been forced to ask myself lately. I am not talking about casual boyfriends or friends with benefits. These are connections that have more potential to become a lasting friendship. No, I am talking about the person that you date, you really connect to, you fall in love with, you in vision

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[colderthanhell]

im a half and half on this.. i think for the most part, people break up for a reason, something happens that causes a connection on the deepest level to be broken. And with the severing of that connection breaks others in the process. Its why in alot of break ups its not healthy to see the other person if your heart has been broken, no matter how much you want to see them, you shouldnt because it will only prolong the pain and hurt. I was lucky enough in my last relationship (as shitty as it was) to not ahve to see her any more, and i still avoid her up in EC, now that situation is far from what you have because of many probs with my ex... but thats besides the point. I think it is possible though, if you give a long separation, and if the break up happens in the right way you can still have a good friendship. Now you may ask "what is the right way to break up?" when in fact there is no right way in particular. It just happens, and the way you both deal with it, is what determines the ending. Funny story.. me and mal (AZ girl) yeah we still talk and are still friends surprisingly, but that was after almost a year of not talking to her, we started talking and it was neutral, we missed the friendship, but everytime we talk, i make sure i keep it as friends. I have removed all the love in the "deep connection" for her. I love her as a friend, and thats all it will ever be, because i no longer want something more with her. And thats an important factor, if you have in your head thoughts and memories of all the good times, and all the love you had in that deep connection, than it wont work because you will still desire something more and they may not and probably will not if they broke your heart. You can look back smile at memories, just dont look back to live them.

And thats my two cents. Love ya Kirsten