Dear Future Husband - Whereever/Whoever you may be.
Before this even begins - I must be completely legally divorced and he must be completely legally single (never married, divorced, or widowed).
What I want in a husband/man.
Step 1
In return he will get:
Step 1
I ask no more than I am willing to give. I ask not for perfection. I ask for a loving, thoughtful man who does not rush fool hardy into something that doesn't have a chance to stand up to the test of time. This list subject to expansion with thoughtful reflection from time to time.
What I want in a husband/man.
Step 1
- I have to know him for a year before we date. He has to be a friend first.
- He must be a patient man.
- He must be evenly yoked with me(if you don't know what this means, we wouldn't be evenly yoked).
- I have to date him for at least a year before he considers marriage. Only fools rush in. I am done being a fool and I don't want to marry a fool either.
- He must ask my parents for their approval before he asks me for my hand in marriage.
- He must be willing to go to couple's therapy and he must be the one to set it up. (Sorry guys, but I've been burnt by men who wouldn't get help - I want to see some effort in this category.)
- He must have my child's best interest at heart, just like I do. We are a package deal.
- He must plan and pay for the ceremony.
- Small church wedding - ok. Courthouse wedding - not.
- His family must like me and appreciate me.
- He must have a stable job and be active in a charity or the church.
- He must be willing to enter into a prenuptial contract that protects both parties.
In return he will get:
Step 1
- My sincere friendship.
- My love and support for whatever he may go through.
- My prayers.
- I will not pressure him to go faster.
- I will seek the approval of his parents.
- I will go to couple's therapy with him and I will seek an honest accountability of my baggage that I bring to the relationship.
- I will keep his best interest at heart or that of him and his children if he brings other kids to the relationship as well. I understand it's a package deal.
- I will pay for the reception and I will make sure I have a dress that is appropriate for the day.
- My family must like him and appreciate him.
- I must have a stable job and be active in a charity or the church.
- I must be willing to enter into a prenuptial contract that protects both parties.
I ask no more than I am willing to give. I ask not for perfection. I ask for a loving, thoughtful man who does not rush fool hardy into something that doesn't have a chance to stand up to the test of time. This list subject to expansion with thoughtful reflection from time to time.