Turning over Leaves...when im not crunching them...mmm...crunchy leaves....
So for those of you who havent been informed, Ive been undergoing a major self-overhaul. Ive been reevaluating whats important, eliminating things that arnt and just overall attempting to become a better person. Here are the conclusions that I have come to:
1) I need to smile. For no reason other than just because I have a nice one. Studies show youre more approachable when you smile, so do it. Even when you think nobody is watching, because you just never know.
2) I cant take life so seriously. Really? God is the greatest comedic writer in the world. Its going to rain on days you took an hour to style your hair. People are going to run into you when you walk in a straight line. Rowdy college boys will be loud at 4 in the morning. Drivers will -always- suck.
What really matters is how you choose to handle things. Ive decided from now on, I would rather just laugh and leave it at that. Simple, straight forward. Dont take life seriously. You wont get out alive.
3) Its ok to be confused. Your life is going to throw you curveballs. Thats how you learn, mature and grow. If you dont know what you want to do with your life at 22...thats fine! Its fine if you hate your job and want a change. Its fine if you take a little longer than "normal" to get where youre going. What matters is you like where you get and you like who you are when you get there.
4) Self defense mechanisms. Mine is a complete system shut down. You'll know when youve really upset me...because you wont get anything out of me but one word responses and sarcasm. As everyone knows, there is good sarcasm, the kind that makes people laugh, and bad sarcasm, which can sting more than almost any other weapon in a properly yielded arsenal. I was brought up in an environment where I felt the need to defend myself and its bled over. From now on, im attempting to correct that. People are only human, theyre going to make mistakes and hurt you...its best to forgive and if you cant forgive, forget. People who are hurting you on purpose arnt worth the ground you walk on.
5) Smoothies...are the win.
6) Whatever body type you are, it can be loved. Someone somewhere loves your curves, your lack of chest, your dimples you hide by not smiling...Youre doing yourself an injustice by hiding yourself. I may not have a perfect body, but damnit, im gonna start working what I do have, because someone, somewhere, thinks im sexy. If youre not happy, then change it, but dont change because you think you have to, or because youre afraid of what someone else thinks.
7) Drama in the rp arena. Its a bad bad thing. Those who know me well know that I online roleplay as an escape. But drama can kill that love. Its a toxin that leaks in and destroys things that it should never be able to touch. Thats one thing ive learned about roleplay in particular. Ive stopped caring who plays what and with who as long as theyre having fun. DONT take it so fucking seriously! Its not worth it in the end. If a love interest...a boyfriend...a friend...takes a scene to pm, that doesnt mean anything, because its all just a game. Its an escape. If a character does something, dont take it personally. Its not that the typist set out to screw you...thier char just did something that negatively impacted yours. I used to be that way. Im still perfecting the art, but overall, ive accepted that rp is rp and rt is rt. Keep them seperated at ALL times. Somewhere, alot of people forgot that...and thats going to ruin the thing that you once enjoyed. Stop trying to control EVERYTHING ALWAYS and just sit back and enjoy the ride. You dont like a situation..come up with an SL to change it.
Granted, sometimes typists can be pigheaded and will do things personally to affect you. In that case, sure, its acceptable to get in thier face about it, or at least talk it out. But unless you have proof they set out to fuck you over...just let it slide off your back. Take it as a challange and fight all that much harder for your character. Make it fun. Keep it clean.
8) Love unconditionally. Laugh unforgiveably. Dance uncontrolably. Sing loudly. Live vibrantly. Act ridiculously. Make your own music.
"Growing old is mandatory....growing up is optional"
Thank you to all the people that have come along on this long and taxing journey...but I know in the end it will be entirely worth it. I already feel ten times better than I have in years. Bring it on, Real World!
1) I need to smile. For no reason other than just because I have a nice one. Studies show youre more approachable when you smile, so do it. Even when you think nobody is watching, because you just never know.
2) I cant take life so seriously. Really? God is the greatest comedic writer in the world. Its going to rain on days you took an hour to style your hair. People are going to run into you when you walk in a straight line. Rowdy college boys will be loud at 4 in the morning. Drivers will -always- suck.
What really matters is how you choose to handle things. Ive decided from now on, I would rather just laugh and leave it at that. Simple, straight forward. Dont take life seriously. You wont get out alive.
3) Its ok to be confused. Your life is going to throw you curveballs. Thats how you learn, mature and grow. If you dont know what you want to do with your life at 22...thats fine! Its fine if you hate your job and want a change. Its fine if you take a little longer than "normal" to get where youre going. What matters is you like where you get and you like who you are when you get there.
4) Self defense mechanisms. Mine is a complete system shut down. You'll know when youve really upset me...because you wont get anything out of me but one word responses and sarcasm. As everyone knows, there is good sarcasm, the kind that makes people laugh, and bad sarcasm, which can sting more than almost any other weapon in a properly yielded arsenal. I was brought up in an environment where I felt the need to defend myself and its bled over. From now on, im attempting to correct that. People are only human, theyre going to make mistakes and hurt you...its best to forgive and if you cant forgive, forget. People who are hurting you on purpose arnt worth the ground you walk on.
5) Smoothies...are the win.
6) Whatever body type you are, it can be loved. Someone somewhere loves your curves, your lack of chest, your dimples you hide by not smiling...Youre doing yourself an injustice by hiding yourself. I may not have a perfect body, but damnit, im gonna start working what I do have, because someone, somewhere, thinks im sexy. If youre not happy, then change it, but dont change because you think you have to, or because youre afraid of what someone else thinks.
7) Drama in the rp arena. Its a bad bad thing. Those who know me well know that I online roleplay as an escape. But drama can kill that love. Its a toxin that leaks in and destroys things that it should never be able to touch. Thats one thing ive learned about roleplay in particular. Ive stopped caring who plays what and with who as long as theyre having fun. DONT take it so fucking seriously! Its not worth it in the end. If a love interest...a boyfriend...a friend...takes a scene to pm, that doesnt mean anything, because its all just a game. Its an escape. If a character does something, dont take it personally. Its not that the typist set out to screw you...thier char just did something that negatively impacted yours. I used to be that way. Im still perfecting the art, but overall, ive accepted that rp is rp and rt is rt. Keep them seperated at ALL times. Somewhere, alot of people forgot that...and thats going to ruin the thing that you once enjoyed. Stop trying to control EVERYTHING ALWAYS and just sit back and enjoy the ride. You dont like a situation..come up with an SL to change it.
Granted, sometimes typists can be pigheaded and will do things personally to affect you. In that case, sure, its acceptable to get in thier face about it, or at least talk it out. But unless you have proof they set out to fuck you over...just let it slide off your back. Take it as a challange and fight all that much harder for your character. Make it fun. Keep it clean.
8) Love unconditionally. Laugh unforgiveably. Dance uncontrolably. Sing loudly. Live vibrantly. Act ridiculously. Make your own music.
"Growing old is mandatory....growing up is optional"
Thank you to all the people that have come along on this long and taxing journey...but I know in the end it will be entirely worth it. I already feel ten times better than I have in years. Bring it on, Real World!