Capoeira (Brazilian martial art developped during the time of slavery by the slaves)
A roda is the circle in which capoeira is done, also the event itself.
The drumming I referred to is specifically Yoruba-oriented. The drumming learned is more or less drummed deity calls, different ones for different deities.
With respect to sugar reactions, if someone reacts with hyperactivity to sugar, then yes, they have reactive hypoglycemia. However, even if they don't react with hyperactivity, there could be other effects that adversely affect the child. Sugar depresses the immune system and creates fear and anxiety. None of these conditions necessarily make a child hyper, but they DO affect their behaviour. And if kept ON sugar, they can become hypoglycemic. There's sugar in BABY FOOD for fuck's sake!! NO kid needs that.
With respect to attachment parenting, if a child is fully/securely emotionally attached to his/her parent/s, then there is no insecurity, no anxiety, no fear that s/he will be abandoned by the parent/s. The child fully trusts the parent/s and is secure in the knowledge that if s/he is left alone, it will not be forever. They know their parent/s will return to care for them. They are brought up in such a way that faith that their parents will always love and care for them is firmly established.
Because of this, there is no need for passive-aggressive behaviour commonly found in ADDers, which results (in part) from an inability to communicate their needs, as well as low self-esteem that leads them to believe that they don't have the right to articulate their needs in a straightforward manner to whomever they feel has wronged them.
Having a secure emotional bond with one's primary caretaker (a bond that includes trust and feeling completely safe) tends to obliterate most of the psychological conditions that afflict a grand majority of the world's population: anxiety, neuroses, low self image, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, etc.
ADDers tend not to be very trusting people. They tend towards control issues, have lousy communication skills, are easily depressed and anxious, like to push boundaries, have issues with authority figures (be it an aversion to or the insistant need to please and thus get approval from), and have problems dealing with anger in a healthy way. Most of these tendencies would likely vanish if they were able to trust their parents while growing up. And in order to be able to trust parental figures, said parental figures need to meet the child's every need when that need manifests, act as a loving and gentle authority figure, and show that child how to live well in the world around them.
This is why I think people should be more aware of what it is they're doing when they have children. They don't realise the importance of parenting and how their successes and failures can exponentially affect the rest of the world.
There's sugar in BABY FOOD for fuck's sake!! NO kid needs that.
Agreed. We went baby food shopping, just idly, with B and her baby when we were in MD in April. She said she would never buy baby food unless it was organic, and most of it she said she'd just make herself anyway. The only stuff she said she would buy would be carrots, because carrots apparently require so much of cooking/straining/recooking/restraining to avoid some chemical/compound/enzyme/protein/toxin that it's just safer to buy the food and be sure its been done right. She's got all these plans on how to make her own baby food, mostly from the books she's been reading....supplied to her by our other foster sister, L. B would have even gone for cloth diapers except that her baby ended up with godawful diaper rash because the cloth just doesn't keep her dry enough.
Didja know, btw, that TO actually will accept diapers in the green bin? *grin* 'Bout time.
This is why I think people should be more aware of what it is they're doing when they have children. They don't realise the importance of parenting and how their successes and failures can exponentially affect the rest of the world.
Agreed. Absolutely agreed. It's one of those things we think about when we start dealing with issues of adoption, too.
God, we want to adopt. *sigh*
*shake* Degree first, child after. *sigh*
One of the things WE worry about is how we would teach a child to not be anxious, to feel safe, when in fact WE don't know what feeling safe is like. How does one impart something one cannot understand oneself?
I don't know. We have been asking ourself a LOT of hard questions because we want to adopt a baby so badly....and i guess it's a kind of way of parsing through all the issues we can think of before going to adoption agencies (which won't happen for about two or three years, but won't be much further off than that).
We saw a show the other day, a W-5 (for those who don't know, it's kinda like a Canadian version of 20/20, a television newsmagazine of sorts), about orphans in Ukraine. We want to adopt a baby girl from Ukraine now...it doesn't hurt we're 1/8 Ukrainian ourself. Still, we question our fitness to take a child from its home culture, even if we do bond with it...
We have a strange and compelling draw to DO something for at least one of the hundreds of thousands of kids there...we can't speak Ukrainian, or we'd volunteer/work for Help Us Help The Children, the Canadian-based non-profit that works to improve the lives of the orphans there. They talked about how out of the 100,000+ orphans that enter the system, only 4 are adopted by Canadian families every year. Most of these kids are never trained how to take care of themselves, and when they reach 18 they 'age out' and are put on the street. This organization, HUHTC, holds a summer camp every year for orphans where they teach them skills like sewing, safe sex, and computer skills....and they get to take the sewing machines and computers and so on back to the orphanages with them. Still, more than 80% of the girls end up prostitutes, and more than 80% of the boys end up in prison, because they just have no means to fend for themselves.
Well, i'm maundering here, but anyhow. Most of those kids are just abandoned by parents too impoverished to raise them. And your comment above just made me think about all the issues we saw on the W-5 show. Sorry for the longwindedness...
I knew about the diapers & the green bin long, long ago. Yeah, it's about fucking time. I plan on cloth diapers and EC, but it's good to know that if plans go awry, the disposables wouldn't be filling up the landfill.
For things like carrots, I see no problem in waiting until baby has enough teeth to eat cooked carrots. Babies don't NEED carrots right away, esp. for mothers who breastfeed and eat carrots themselves. There's no problem with waiting until it's more convenient to feed them certain foods.
And yes, I plan on making my own babyfood, too. There's no reason to buy all the crap that people would have you believe you absolutely NEED when baby arrives. Babyhood is surrounded by such a materialistic and commercial industry. Makes me wanna vomit.
Were you to adopt from ANY former Eastern Bloc country, I would highly suggest a GFCF (gluten-free/casein-free) diet at the outset, as it will help negate any problems from FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome) and any withdrawal from drug use in the mother. (http://www.come-over.to/FAS/FASDnutrition.htm)
Also, adopting a toddler can be just as rewarding -- no bottle-feeding to have to deal with, and you can jump straight to toilet-training. Plus, there are still plenty of 'firsts' to enjoy and marvel at with a toddler. And to be sure, there are many more toddlers in need of good homes than there are infants.
Good point with the diet. Something to keep in mind, thanks!
True about toddlers also...i know i will want to adopt one infant...but the rest of my kids...we'll see. I saw a program last night on PRimetime about the horrid conditions foster kids have, and what a crisis it is in the US...and it made me cry. I want to foster kids NOW and get them out of their hells, but i know that i can't do that AND my degree. One of them has to get done first...so children have to wait for 2 years. At least. *sigh*
A roda is the circle in which capoeira is done, also the event itself.
The drumming I referred to is specifically Yoruba-oriented. The drumming learned is more or less drummed deity calls, different ones for different deities.
With respect to sugar reactions, if someone reacts with hyperactivity to sugar, then yes, they have reactive hypoglycemia. However, even if they don't react with hyperactivity, there could be other effects that adversely affect the child. Sugar depresses the immune system and creates fear and anxiety. None of these conditions necessarily make a child hyper, but they DO affect their behaviour. And if kept ON sugar, they can become hypoglycemic. There's sugar in BABY FOOD for fuck's sake!! NO kid needs that.
With respect to attachment parenting, if a child is fully/securely emotionally attached to his/her parent/s, then there is no insecurity, no anxiety, no fear that s/he will be abandoned by the parent/s. The child fully trusts the parent/s and is secure in the knowledge that if s/he is left alone, it will not be forever. They know their parent/s will return to care for them. They are brought up in such a way that faith that their parents will always love and care for them is firmly established.
Because of this, there is no need for passive-aggressive behaviour commonly found in ADDers, which results (in part) from an inability to communicate their needs, as well as low self-esteem that leads them to believe that they don't have the right to articulate their needs in a straightforward manner to whomever they feel has wronged them.
Having a secure emotional bond with one's primary caretaker (a bond that includes trust and feeling completely safe) tends to obliterate most of the psychological conditions that afflict a grand majority of the world's population: anxiety, neuroses, low self image, low self-esteem, low self-confidence, etc.
ADDers tend not to be very trusting people. They tend towards control issues, have lousy communication skills, are easily depressed and anxious, like to push boundaries, have issues with authority figures (be it an aversion to or the insistant need to please and thus get approval from), and have problems dealing with anger in a healthy way. Most of these tendencies would likely vanish if they were able to trust their parents while growing up. And in order to be able to trust parental figures, said parental figures need to meet the child's every need when that need manifests, act as a loving and gentle authority figure, and show that child how to live well in the world around them.
This is why I think people should be more aware of what it is they're doing when they have children. They don't realise the importance of parenting and how their successes and failures can exponentially affect the rest of the world.
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Agreed. We went baby food shopping, just idly, with B and her baby when we were in MD in April. She said she would never buy baby food unless it was organic, and most of it she said she'd just make herself anyway. The only stuff she said she would buy would be carrots, because carrots apparently require so much of cooking/straining/recooking/restraining to avoid some chemical/compound/enzyme/protein/toxin that it's just safer to buy the food and be sure its been done right. She's got all these plans on how to make her own baby food, mostly from the books she's been reading....supplied to her by our other foster sister, L. B would have even gone for cloth diapers except that her baby ended up with godawful diaper rash because the cloth just doesn't keep her dry enough.
Didja know, btw, that TO actually will accept diapers in the green bin? *grin* 'Bout time.
This is why I think people should be more aware of what it is they're doing when they have children. They don't realise the importance of parenting and how their successes and failures can exponentially affect the rest of the world.
Agreed. Absolutely agreed. It's one of those things we think about when we start dealing with issues of adoption, too.
God, we want to adopt. *sigh*
*shake*
Degree first, child after. *sigh*
One of the things WE worry about is how we would teach a child to not be anxious, to feel safe, when in fact WE don't know what feeling safe is like. How does one impart something one cannot understand oneself?
I don't know. We have been asking ourself a LOT of hard questions because we want to adopt a baby so badly....and i guess it's a kind of way of parsing through all the issues we can think of before going to adoption agencies (which won't happen for about two or three years, but won't be much further off than that).
We saw a show the other day, a W-5 (for those who don't know, it's kinda like a Canadian version of 20/20, a television newsmagazine of sorts), about orphans in Ukraine. We want to adopt a baby girl from Ukraine now...it doesn't hurt we're 1/8 Ukrainian ourself. Still, we question our fitness to take a child from its home culture, even if we do bond with it...
We have a strange and compelling draw to DO something for at least one of the hundreds of thousands of kids there...we can't speak Ukrainian, or we'd volunteer/work for Help Us Help The Children, the Canadian-based non-profit that works to improve the lives of the orphans there. They talked about how out of the 100,000+ orphans that enter the system, only 4 are adopted by Canadian families every year. Most of these kids are never trained how to take care of themselves, and when they reach 18 they 'age out' and are put on the street. This organization, HUHTC, holds a summer camp every year for orphans where they teach them skills like sewing, safe sex, and computer skills....and they get to take the sewing machines and computers and so on back to the orphanages with them. Still, more than 80% of the girls end up prostitutes, and more than 80% of the boys end up in prison, because they just have no means to fend for themselves.
Well, i'm maundering here, but anyhow. Most of those kids are just abandoned by parents too impoverished to raise them. And your comment above just made me think about all the issues we saw on the W-5 show. Sorry for the longwindedness...
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For things like carrots, I see no problem in waiting until baby has enough teeth to eat cooked carrots. Babies don't NEED carrots right away, esp. for mothers who breastfeed and eat carrots themselves. There's no problem with waiting until it's more convenient to feed them certain foods.
And yes, I plan on making my own babyfood, too. There's no reason to buy all the crap that people would have you believe you absolutely NEED when baby arrives. Babyhood is surrounded by such a materialistic and commercial industry. Makes me wanna vomit.
Were you to adopt from ANY former Eastern Bloc country, I would highly suggest a GFCF (gluten-free/casein-free) diet at the outset, as it will help negate any problems from FAS (fetal alcohol syndrome) and any withdrawal from drug use in the mother. (http://www.come-over.to/FAS/FASDnutrition.htm)
Also, adopting a toddler can be just as rewarding -- no bottle-feeding to have to deal with, and you can jump straight to toilet-training. Plus, there are still plenty of 'firsts' to enjoy and marvel at with a toddler. And to be sure, there are many more toddlers in need of good homes than there are infants.
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True about toddlers also...i know i will want to adopt one infant...but the rest of my kids...we'll see. I saw a program last night on PRimetime about the horrid conditions foster kids have, and what a crisis it is in the US...and it made me cry. I want to foster kids NOW and get them out of their hells, but i know that i can't do that AND my degree. One of them has to get done first...so children have to wait for 2 years. At least. *sigh*
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