Won't make a bit of difference, actually, except maybe make her ask Dan why he's still with "that horrible girl" in the future.
My family more or less leaves us alone. Both Dan's Mom and Grandma (her mother, the Kentucky grandma) drop lots of hints and stuff. When I talked with Dan's Mom in the garage, I made our relationship very clear, so I'm hoping with her, since she saw how the pushing upsets me, will leave off. The Grandma I only have to deal with every so often (maybe three times a year), so I can either avoid her or survive her visits. His Mom I have to deal with almost weekly.
I think part of the reason I'm having a hard time falling in love with him is the push from family and our former friends. When we were with the singles and young marrieds group, they pushed us severely to get together, and kept hinting we would get married. That takes any enjoyment out of it for me. I want to make up my own mind, not have others tell me what to do or how I should run my life. It doesn't help, either, that I also get, "well, if you feel that strongly about it (bad reaction to being pushed), then break it off." It's like, either way I choose, someone is going to say "I told you so." I got the "it doesn't seem like you'll ever fall in love with him, so break up," comment from my Mom today. And I got on her about how that's not good, either. *sigh*
Given where you've been, I think it makes total sense that you're not falling in love with anyone very easily right now. And Dan's been a good friend. If the two of you enjoy each other as friends and hang out that way, then it's not like this has been a waste of time and should be ended as soon as possible so you can get into another relationship.
My family more or less leaves us alone. Both Dan's Mom and Grandma (her mother, the Kentucky grandma) drop lots of hints and stuff. When I talked with Dan's Mom in the garage, I made our relationship very clear, so I'm hoping with her, since she saw how the pushing upsets me, will leave off. The Grandma I only have to deal with every so often (maybe three times a year), so I can either avoid her or survive her visits. His Mom I have to deal with almost weekly.
I think part of the reason I'm having a hard time falling in love with him is the push from family and our former friends. When we were with the singles and young marrieds group, they pushed us severely to get together, and kept hinting we would get married. That takes any enjoyment out of it for me. I want to make up my own mind, not have others tell me what to do or how I should run my life. It doesn't help, either, that I also get, "well, if you feel that strongly about it (bad reaction to being pushed), then break it off." It's like, either way I choose, someone is going to say "I told you so." I got the "it doesn't seem like you'll ever fall in love with him, so break up," comment from my Mom today. And I got on her about how that's not good, either. *sigh*
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