Is this a little weird, or am I?
Sometimes I really wonder about my family.
My sister having to work on the 15th (my birthday), and I as well the two days right before this date, we've decided to have our little family gathering on Sunday. Today, I phoned my parents to tell them the exact hour at which I'd arrive at the railroad station; among other things, I asked if everyone I wished to see had confirmed they'd be there, and here's what my mother told me:
"I haven't told your uncle, you know, since you (NB: my sister and I) may be too old for gifts, and we were afraid that if we invited him, he'd feel forced to offer a gift all the same."
To which I went WTF, because, duh, if I wish to see my uncle at my birthday, it's NOT for potential gifts. So basically, this means I'll NEVER see him at my birthday again, because then it would feel like I'm white-knuckling him into buying gifts? Isn't that pretty stupid?
So, okay, next time I'll invite people myself instead of letting my parents do it. Maybe that wasn't very wise. It just seemed more convenient at the time: they were bound to see him this past Monday, while I'd be at work, before I'd be able to phone him myself in the evening. But duh. Duh to the power of ten. What kind of silly reasoning was that? Why would it be rude to invite someone to my birthday (it's a very small party, even, not some big thing where people will shower me with gifts)? As if there evr was something like this in my family to start with. And somehow, I'd like to see just a couple more people for my fucking birthday than just my parents and my sis. I think this is a legitimate concern.
I don't understand. I really don't. Am I completely rude and uncouth? Or is it really a weird move on the part of my mother?
My sister having to work on the 15th (my birthday), and I as well the two days right before this date, we've decided to have our little family gathering on Sunday. Today, I phoned my parents to tell them the exact hour at which I'd arrive at the railroad station; among other things, I asked if everyone I wished to see had confirmed they'd be there, and here's what my mother told me:
"I haven't told your uncle, you know, since you (NB: my sister and I) may be too old for gifts, and we were afraid that if we invited him, he'd feel forced to offer a gift all the same."
To which I went WTF, because, duh, if I wish to see my uncle at my birthday, it's NOT for potential gifts. So basically, this means I'll NEVER see him at my birthday again, because then it would feel like I'm white-knuckling him into buying gifts? Isn't that pretty stupid?
So, okay, next time I'll invite people myself instead of letting my parents do it. Maybe that wasn't very wise. It just seemed more convenient at the time: they were bound to see him this past Monday, while I'd be at work, before I'd be able to phone him myself in the evening. But duh. Duh to the power of ten. What kind of silly reasoning was that? Why would it be rude to invite someone to my birthday (it's a very small party, even, not some big thing where people will shower me with gifts)? As if there evr was something like this in my family to start with. And somehow, I'd like to see just a couple more people for my fucking birthday than just my parents and my sis. I think this is a legitimate concern.
I don't understand. I really don't. Am I completely rude and uncouth? Or is it really a weird move on the part of my mother?