Fandom and how I wish people could play nice.
I have a bunch of things to post. I have a wrap up of Mardi Gras with photos that will go up once I have the photos on my computer, I have at least one 'Things That Make Me Happy' post that I will have to get up soon as I need some Happy right now. I also have the commission piece I did for star98hope for the art for dance commission that I auctioned off. I've finally got broadband speed again and can now upload it.
I got up today and I'm in pain because of a storm and I came on to read my friends list and stuff that has been going on for months has just got too much for me. I feel like I'm back in fucking High School. I hated High School. I know Bitchy Wank is all part and parcel of fandom. I was just kind of hoping that people had grown up a bit.
Constant sniping remarks all the time from so many people and I just so don't understand it at all. I know I should just keep my head down and not say anything but I just can't understand why people feel the need to.
I don't really know what's going on and to be honest I don't care. I'm here for the amazing fic and art and to squee about some of my favourite things with friends. Why on earth all the other stuff has to get involved I don't know.
I don't know why some people feel the need to shit on everyone else. Is it to make themselves feel better? I came to fandom, each and every fandom I've been part of, to feel connected, to share things with people. For me the best part of fandom is to have like minded friends so we can flail and chat and be happy together. I know people who come from very different walks of life, from almost every continent, many different religions, even people who's beliefs contradict each other and the fact that we can put all that aside and enjoy something together is something wonderful.
I have no problem with differences of opinions, it's what makes people, people. Every one is different, everyone the same would be so boring. I just can't see that as any reason to be nasty to someone. Different websites we favour, different ships we follow, different fandoms we're in, different politicians we support, different religions we believe in, different colours of our skin, different sexual orientations, why on earth does that need to be the basis for wank. How hard is it to accept our differences, realise we're all still people with feelings, grow up and move on?
I love the Harry Potter books. Do you? I love the characters in Harry Potter. I love lots of characters in the book, I have my favourites and I accept that they wont be the same as everyone else's favourites. I have my favourite pairings (or more than two) and I have pairings I'm not so fond of. I know that other people have favourites and those they don't like and that it is okay if they don't match up with mine. I see no reason at all why my opinions should be considered better than anyone else's and I see no reason why anyone else should consider their opinions 'better' than mine. We ARE all different. But we ARE all people.
People who write and draw and put stuff up for others to see and share in, they have feelings. Empathy is a wonderful thing. There is not enough empathy and acceptance in this world.
I also like other things. I enjoy other books and TV shows and am part of other fandoms. While it is really sad to see people move away from a fandom that I love them in, that's life. If people don't get the same enjoyment out of writing, drawing, reading or commenting in that fandom any more then there are other ways to keep in touch.
My idea of Fandom is not a competition. I don't see that having more friends, getting more hits, getting more favourites, more comments, getting there 'first', posting more often etc makes you better than anyone else or worse than anyone else. Some people will like your stuff, your ideas, your technique, other's wont.
I don't know everything other people do, or think, or believe and assuming that I do would just be silly of me.
If you don't like something someone has done, move on, don't comment, don't bitch about it, just don't look at it. No one is forcing you. If someone asks for concrit, give it to them. But please just remember that they have put effort into what ever they have done and concrit is about making that better, not about putting down that person.
Differing opinions and discussions about them are great. I've often had trouble understanding someone's point of view until it's explained to me but something that points out that point of view doesn't need to dismiss and put down every other point of view. Passion is not the same as being violent or nasty.
I'm not talking about anyone specific here. It's just my ideas on fandom and playing nice with other people. I probably have upset people and if you want to calmly point out something that is offensive then I'll listen, can't promise I'll agree with you, but I'll listen.
I got up today and I'm in pain because of a storm and I came on to read my friends list and stuff that has been going on for months has just got too much for me. I feel like I'm back in fucking High School. I hated High School. I know Bitchy Wank is all part and parcel of fandom. I was just kind of hoping that people had grown up a bit.
Constant sniping remarks all the time from so many people and I just so don't understand it at all. I know I should just keep my head down and not say anything but I just can't understand why people feel the need to.
I don't really know what's going on and to be honest I don't care. I'm here for the amazing fic and art and to squee about some of my favourite things with friends. Why on earth all the other stuff has to get involved I don't know.
I don't know why some people feel the need to shit on everyone else. Is it to make themselves feel better? I came to fandom, each and every fandom I've been part of, to feel connected, to share things with people. For me the best part of fandom is to have like minded friends so we can flail and chat and be happy together. I know people who come from very different walks of life, from almost every continent, many different religions, even people who's beliefs contradict each other and the fact that we can put all that aside and enjoy something together is something wonderful.
I have no problem with differences of opinions, it's what makes people, people. Every one is different, everyone the same would be so boring. I just can't see that as any reason to be nasty to someone. Different websites we favour, different ships we follow, different fandoms we're in, different politicians we support, different religions we believe in, different colours of our skin, different sexual orientations, why on earth does that need to be the basis for wank. How hard is it to accept our differences, realise we're all still people with feelings, grow up and move on?
I love the Harry Potter books. Do you? I love the characters in Harry Potter. I love lots of characters in the book, I have my favourites and I accept that they wont be the same as everyone else's favourites. I have my favourite pairings (or more than two) and I have pairings I'm not so fond of. I know that other people have favourites and those they don't like and that it is okay if they don't match up with mine. I see no reason at all why my opinions should be considered better than anyone else's and I see no reason why anyone else should consider their opinions 'better' than mine. We ARE all different. But we ARE all people.
People who write and draw and put stuff up for others to see and share in, they have feelings. Empathy is a wonderful thing. There is not enough empathy and acceptance in this world.
I also like other things. I enjoy other books and TV shows and am part of other fandoms. While it is really sad to see people move away from a fandom that I love them in, that's life. If people don't get the same enjoyment out of writing, drawing, reading or commenting in that fandom any more then there are other ways to keep in touch.
My idea of Fandom is not a competition. I don't see that having more friends, getting more hits, getting more favourites, more comments, getting there 'first', posting more often etc makes you better than anyone else or worse than anyone else. Some people will like your stuff, your ideas, your technique, other's wont.
I don't know everything other people do, or think, or believe and assuming that I do would just be silly of me.
If you don't like something someone has done, move on, don't comment, don't bitch about it, just don't look at it. No one is forcing you. If someone asks for concrit, give it to them. But please just remember that they have put effort into what ever they have done and concrit is about making that better, not about putting down that person.
Differing opinions and discussions about them are great. I've often had trouble understanding someone's point of view until it's explained to me but something that points out that point of view doesn't need to dismiss and put down every other point of view. Passion is not the same as being violent or nasty.
I'm not talking about anyone specific here. It's just my ideas on fandom and playing nice with other people. I probably have upset people and if you want to calmly point out something that is offensive then I'll listen, can't promise I'll agree with you, but I'll listen.