I have many questions that I would like to have answered. However, I have only three that I need answered most urgently, and so I suppose I should begin with those
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//Private to Sephiroth//lady_caterinaJanuary 14 2008, 01:55:34 UTC
Brother mine, I am sorry for your sadness. All these people disappeared, hopefully back to thier own lives. There is no simple process for grief, and no one can tell you the "best" way to handle it. I ..tend to bury myself, even more, in work and duty and push myself until I am so exhausted I cannot feel anything. Doubtless this is not the most healthy approach, but yet it works. Ah, if only Gyula were awake...the man has made grief into an art form. And I am not terribly amused that my blood seems to have made no difference in his condition. Is there nothing I am good for?
When Abel died....well, I confess I did not handle it well. If not for the presence of Ashtarothe Asran and the culmination of all our hopes in that single piece of parchment, perhaps I would have descended into madness as well. Ah but we were speaking of good ways to deal with grief....
Marriage? Being neither married, nor a man, I do not know that I can be of much assistance. However....
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 14 2008, 02:42:39 UTC
Father Tres recommended work as well, and while working to exhaustion may not be the most productive option, it is certainly less volatile than smashing a giant piece of space debris into the world which vexed me last time round. So I'm certain it would be an improvement. And I do have an idea for some additional work I can distract myself with now, thanks to Daisuke-kun...
You are neither married nor a man, so I'll not trouble you with that question. But the other -- what was your home like? What little things were familiar, and comforting, and treasured, and yet you miss their presence here?
...What can I do to make this place more of a home and less of a temporary shelter for those who have had their worlds torn away from them?
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//lady_caterinaJanuary 14 2008, 02:59:24 UTC
Ah, so Tres has been speaking with you? Tres is....quite simply the most comforting person I know.
My home? Well, my home in Milan was...quite ancient. It began its life, if a building can be said to have life, centuries before Armageddon, as a fortress. My Sforza family have ever and always been warriors, I have been told. But there was something comforting about that heap of stones and mortar.
In Rome, I lived near the Vatican, in the Palazzio Spada, though I admit I ...spent more time in my office.
What I miss most are the faces of those who are not here. Perhaps...and perhaps there is already something in place that I am unaware of, but...for lack of better words, a welcome center, with orientation to the city for those new arrivals?
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 14 2008, 04:02:25 UTC
He is remarkably skilled at it, yes. He makes a far better person than my entirely organic father, regardless of whether or not he is technically a human being.
So a sense of home has something to do with the physical material of the surroundings with which you are familiar? We can't provide one's missing people at will, but we can provide a variety of ...textures. Stone or wood or steel, tapestry or paint...
There is a welcome center -- Bradstone House, Mr. Wright's shelter for the newly arrived and the displaced. But after his first loss, it seems to have fallen out of the collective consciousness. I remind people when I can, but perhaps they need a marketing advisor as well... hmm.
[ooc: my cat nearly got the post again, but I will prevail! XD Gmail is still throwing errors at me even when I clear all my caches, siiigh...]
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//lady_caterinaJanuary 14 2008, 04:26:48 UTC
Tres is a far greater man than most.
For some, the reminder might be more painful than not. But for others.....well, that which keeps the memory sharpest is better. That is why Gyula now has my...attempt at a portrait of his Maria.
Ah. I did not know of this...perhaps I could be of assistance?
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 15 2008, 01:03:37 UTC
...So each person misses their homes differently, then? That's ...challenging. Not only must we consider such a variety of places to offer familiar touches from, we must also consider whether or not they wish the reminder...
Is this one of those situations where asking what a person would like in their home-reminder would be useful, or one of those situations in which it would be insensitive?
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//lady_caterinaJanuary 15 2008, 02:53:09 UTC
Humans are...as you know....difficult creatures. There is no hard and fast rule...however, I would say that it couldn't hurt to ask. If someone doesn't wish to share, then they don't have to answer.
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 16 2008, 03:23:45 UTC
That sounds diplomatic, then. Good. There have been some newcomers having a very difficult time adjusting to the fact that no one can leave of their own will, and one is becoming somewhat hysterical. I'll have to ask him what would be comforting.
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 16 2008, 15:16:39 UTC
That is interesting, yes. I hope that their worlds haven't suffered some sort of calamity that particularly slays the young -- one pattern to new arrivals is that sometimes they've just died in their own worlds, though obviously it's not inevitable...
What is Valium? ...oh. Hmm. That does sound useful.
Doesn't one need to be medically certified in order to provide drugs to other people, though?
I'm not that fond of rummaging about in people's innards just for the sake of doing so. When I put a sharp blade into a person, it's normally because I intend for them to cease living.
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 14 2008, 02:46:30 UTC
...also, I'm sure that there has since been time to find MORE donors for Mr. Kadar. So you needn't open a vein personally next time. This is why there are blood BANKS, after all.
Perhaps we should speak with one. For him and for you, even?
Re: //Private to Sephiroth//katayoku_tenshiJanuary 14 2008, 04:05:41 UTC
Oh, I certainly understand hesitating to seek out medical help. That would be why I asked if 'we' could speak with one. So that I and my seven-foot-long sword could be right there with you in case any of the doctors got any ideas about withdrawing samples rather than simply making deposits. :3
Father Abel says that I should be more trusting of people in white coats. I am willing to be more trusting as long as I can also come armed to the teeth. --And yes, for me that really is more trusting. 'Less trusting' typically involves either evasion or skewering.
When Abel died....well, I confess I did not handle it well. If not for the presence of Ashtarothe Asran and the culmination of all our hopes in that single piece of parchment, perhaps I would have descended into madness as well. Ah but we were speaking of good ways to deal with grief....
Marriage? Being neither married, nor a man, I do not know that I can be of much assistance. However....
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You are neither married nor a man, so I'll not trouble you with that question. But the other -- what was your home like? What little things were familiar, and comforting, and treasured, and yet you miss their presence here?
...What can I do to make this place more of a home and less of a temporary shelter for those who have had their worlds torn away from them?
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My home? Well, my home in Milan was...quite ancient. It began its life, if a building can be said to have life, centuries before Armageddon, as a fortress. My Sforza family have ever and always been warriors, I have been told. But there was something comforting about that heap of stones and mortar.
In Rome, I lived near the Vatican, in the Palazzio Spada, though I admit I ...spent more time in my office.
What I miss most are the faces of those who are not here. Perhaps...and perhaps there is already something in place that I am unaware of, but...for lack of better words, a welcome center, with orientation to the city for those new arrivals?
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So a sense of home has something to do with the physical material of the surroundings with which you are familiar? We can't provide one's missing people at will, but we can provide a variety of ...textures. Stone or wood or steel, tapestry or paint...
There is a welcome center -- Bradstone House, Mr. Wright's shelter for the newly arrived and the displaced. But after his first loss, it seems to have fallen out of the collective consciousness. I remind people when I can, but perhaps they need a marketing advisor as well... hmm.
[ooc: my cat nearly got the post again, but I will prevail! XD Gmail is still throwing errors at me even when I clear all my caches, siiigh...]
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For some, the reminder might be more painful than not. But for others.....well, that which keeps the memory sharpest is better. That is why Gyula now has my...attempt at a portrait of his Maria.
Ah. I did not know of this...perhaps I could be of assistance?
[OOC: Gmail iz mean. >(]
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Is this one of those situations where asking what a person would like in their home-reminder would be useful, or one of those situations in which it would be insensitive?
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Have you considered Valium?
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What is Valium? ...oh. Hmm. That does sound useful.
Doesn't one need to be medically certified in order to provide drugs to other people, though?
I'm not that fond of rummaging about in people's innards just for the sake of doing so. When I put a sharp blade into a person, it's normally because I intend for them to cease living.
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Something that I have been tempted to give Abel on occasion. Not that it would do any good...
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Perhaps we should speak with one. For him and for you, even?
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Father Abel says that I should be more trusting of people in white coats. I am willing to be more trusting as long as I can also come armed to the teeth. --And yes, for me that really is more trusting. 'Less trusting' typically involves either evasion or skewering.
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It it...rather easier to be trusting when you can defend yourself.....
That is what I hate most about hospitals. Being helpless.
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Yes. Helplessness is the worst part of medical experiments.
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