The three most important questions...
I have many questions that I would like to have answered. However, I have only three that I need answered most urgently, and so I suppose I should begin with those.
The first question is this: What is a socially acceptable method of grieving?
Zack is gone. Again. Dozens of people are gone. Even the soft little cat god that purred is gone. And they aren't even casualties; I can't handle it as though it were a war, with the consolation that there was a greater cause to validate their loss.
I have a history of not dealing well with grief, or with rage, or with other such strong emotions. What I want is to smash a hole in the wall between the worlds and charge through and find them. But there is no wall to touch. And even if I could -- I don't want to endanger those who are still here. So there's nothing I can do to mend this.
And I can't stand having nothing to do to mend this.
Can someone tell me how to grieve in a way that assuages the pain without causing harm to others?
The second question is cultural -- something of a collection of questions, really. I'd particularly like to ask those from my Cloud's world about their homes. Although I suppose anyone with homes would do really, so that I could determine what makes the difference between a place for living and a home. Those brightly colored books in the library are suspiciously vague about this.
The third question is more personal, and I would need the advice of an adult, already-married man -- hopefully more than one. Not physically intimate advice, but socially conventional. Is there anyone here who would be willing to offer me their experience with marriage?
The first question is this: What is a socially acceptable method of grieving?
Zack is gone. Again. Dozens of people are gone. Even the soft little cat god that purred is gone. And they aren't even casualties; I can't handle it as though it were a war, with the consolation that there was a greater cause to validate their loss.
I have a history of not dealing well with grief, or with rage, or with other such strong emotions. What I want is to smash a hole in the wall between the worlds and charge through and find them. But there is no wall to touch. And even if I could -- I don't want to endanger those who are still here. So there's nothing I can do to mend this.
And I can't stand having nothing to do to mend this.
Can someone tell me how to grieve in a way that assuages the pain without causing harm to others?
The second question is cultural -- something of a collection of questions, really. I'd particularly like to ask those from my Cloud's world about their homes. Although I suppose anyone with homes would do really, so that I could determine what makes the difference between a place for living and a home. Those brightly colored books in the library are suspiciously vague about this.
The third question is more personal, and I would need the advice of an adult, already-married man -- hopefully more than one. Not physically intimate advice, but socially conventional. Is there anyone here who would be willing to offer me their experience with marriage?