An update. Screw you, medical staff taking care of my mother.
I haven't updated in a while. I've gotten a couple of PMs/e-mails asking why.
My doctor pulled me out of work last week for the time being due to various issues that I'll write about more in length.
What was unexpected was getting a call this morning from my mother telling me that my mother was rushed to the hospital and into surgery for bleeding and they found massive and metastasized colon and rectal cancer. She's been in ICU post-surgery and is very weak. They removed so much of her that I'm not even sure what's left at this point until I talk to my brother again in a few hours.
They just found another colon obstruction that they can't figure out - I'm astounded that they didn't find it the first time.
If she's strong enough for chemo, she can maybe live two years.
If she's not strong enough, she has perhaps three to six months.
If she doesn't recover from this surgery, she's going to die.
So I have to go to Tucson and see her this week.
My mother lived in a nursing home. They should have found this earlier and stopped it.
I am in no way prepared for this, I am in no way accepting of this situation, and I'm so angry and freaked and sad right now that I can barely even type.
If you know of any supremely competent oncologists in southern Arizona, please let me know, because the quality of care that will receive could literally mean the difference between her dying now and her dying in two years, and we'd like more time with my mother if possible. If you have any advice because you know someone who has dealt with this or you've dealt with it yourself, please let me know. Let me have it. I need it desperately.
Please don't leave platitudes telling me everything is going to be okay, because it's really not going to be okay in the short term.
There. That's your update. I cannot handle this right now, but I'm going to have to handle it, because I have no choice.
My doctor pulled me out of work last week for the time being due to various issues that I'll write about more in length.
What was unexpected was getting a call this morning from my mother telling me that my mother was rushed to the hospital and into surgery for bleeding and they found massive and metastasized colon and rectal cancer. She's been in ICU post-surgery and is very weak. They removed so much of her that I'm not even sure what's left at this point until I talk to my brother again in a few hours.
They just found another colon obstruction that they can't figure out - I'm astounded that they didn't find it the first time.
If she's strong enough for chemo, she can maybe live two years.
If she's not strong enough, she has perhaps three to six months.
If she doesn't recover from this surgery, she's going to die.
So I have to go to Tucson and see her this week.
My mother lived in a nursing home. They should have found this earlier and stopped it.
I am in no way prepared for this, I am in no way accepting of this situation, and I'm so angry and freaked and sad right now that I can barely even type.
If you know of any supremely competent oncologists in southern Arizona, please let me know, because the quality of care that will receive could literally mean the difference between her dying now and her dying in two years, and we'd like more time with my mother if possible. If you have any advice because you know someone who has dealt with this or you've dealt with it yourself, please let me know. Let me have it. I need it desperately.
Please don't leave platitudes telling me everything is going to be okay, because it's really not going to be okay in the short term.
There. That's your update. I cannot handle this right now, but I'm going to have to handle it, because I have no choice.