and her name was: Kass-Ann-drah
On the not so good front: me and Danielle will most likely never talk again. I am so fucking done trying to be her friend, trying to get her to talk to me. I mean there are only so many times that someone can push me the fuck away before I just back off completely. It all escalated into a really big fight over text message because, of course, she didn't make any effort to see me the entire month that I was in Belleville.
Here's how it all went down:
Her facebook status was this:
"Danielle ADVENTURE DAY!! Today is the big day!! I leave to go to the middle of no where then drive another 7ish hrs to way more in the middle of no where. Im excited, i cant wait for all the good times to come."
So then I commented underneath saying this:
"thanks for taking the time to say goodbye to me.
REALLY fucking appreciated it."
she didn't write anything back after that, until later that day I got a text message from her. Right now I am going to transcribe the conversation exactly how it happened. Get ready for it.
Dan: What is ur problem!
Julia: My problem is that I tried 100 different ways to see you but you had excuses for all of it. I get that you want to be with your boyfrind but I've known you an loved you since we were 2. And you fucking ignored me. I came to b.ville because I needed family and where were you? That's my fucking problem.
(7 minutes later)
Julia: So are you done talking to me now?
Dan: No. I didn't say that!!! But did you ever once come out here to see me... NOPE!!!
Julia: Holy shit I wanted to. So bad. But then I heard that when I was going to come out there you got all huffy and left the house and slammed the door. Why would I go see you if that's how you are going to react?
Julia: and I offered to come up. But did you ever offer to get me after you finish school one day? or work? nope.
Dan: who told you that cause I never got mad.
Dan: Ya well you can't just drop in and expect everyone to drop everything for you. I have plans made, I'm not breaking them.
Julia: I'm not bringing other people into it. But I'm just saying that I tried. I tried really hard. And you didn't. I said I'll settle for 30 minutes for coffee. I got nothing from you.
Julia: I didn't want you to break plans, I never wanted you to "drop everything" but I've been here since April 11th. I doubt you had plans the entire time I've been down.
Dan: How do you know you never talk to me before you came down. whatever I'm done.
Julia: I came down suddenyl. It's not like I had weeks to plan this out. But for a month you couldn't see me? when you went to Montreal you couldn't see me? What is up with that?
Julia: You're honestly done?
Dan: whatever I got stuff I gotta finish doing before I peace out
Dan: Ya
Julia: Wow this is it then? If you are done, then fuck it so am I. go throw your fucking life away for a fucking douchebag of a guy. But when it's your time of need, don't you dare look to me, because I'll walk right the fuck away from you. I finally know where I stand with you.
Dan: That's ok if you think he's a douchebag. but he's not, your just mad that I have someone.
Julia: wow. you are so fucking oblivious to everything in the world. Have a nice life.
Dan: NP I will. have fun wwwith yours.
And that, my friends, is how family members stop talking.
not to mention that after I wrote what I did on her facebook status, her dad wrote "thanks for calling to say HI to the rest of us when you are down." (I talked to everyone except him beacuse he was at work, and most of the time Isabel called me. But I did say, tell mike I say hi)
so then I wrote,
"Sorry mike, this wasn't much of a social visit like usual.
Tell your daughter thanks for calling me when she was in montreal."
Kind of bitchy, but fuck it, I'm done trying to be the one who keeps in all in, and doesn't make a big deal out of things that are a big deal to me.
but I am proud of myself because I finally said what I was thinking in the moment without editing it. Which for me, is a big thing. I usually overthink before I speak .Yeah it pretty much sucks that she changed so much and is now going to put her career and life on hold so she can put him through school, but it's her life that she can fuck up. and I am just going to sit back and wait for her to get pregnant and get trapped.
this is the first time that I've been in a honest friendship ending fight with someone, and I haven't regretted a thing that I said.
Here's how it all went down:
Her facebook status was this:
"Danielle ADVENTURE DAY!! Today is the big day!! I leave to go to the middle of no where then drive another 7ish hrs to way more in the middle of no where. Im excited, i cant wait for all the good times to come."
So then I commented underneath saying this:
"thanks for taking the time to say goodbye to me.
REALLY fucking appreciated it."
she didn't write anything back after that, until later that day I got a text message from her. Right now I am going to transcribe the conversation exactly how it happened. Get ready for it.
Dan: What is ur problem!
Julia: My problem is that I tried 100 different ways to see you but you had excuses for all of it. I get that you want to be with your boyfrind but I've known you an loved you since we were 2. And you fucking ignored me. I came to b.ville because I needed family and where were you? That's my fucking problem.
(7 minutes later)
Julia: So are you done talking to me now?
Dan: No. I didn't say that!!! But did you ever once come out here to see me... NOPE!!!
Julia: Holy shit I wanted to. So bad. But then I heard that when I was going to come out there you got all huffy and left the house and slammed the door. Why would I go see you if that's how you are going to react?
Julia: and I offered to come up. But did you ever offer to get me after you finish school one day? or work? nope.
Dan: who told you that cause I never got mad.
Dan: Ya well you can't just drop in and expect everyone to drop everything for you. I have plans made, I'm not breaking them.
Julia: I'm not bringing other people into it. But I'm just saying that I tried. I tried really hard. And you didn't. I said I'll settle for 30 minutes for coffee. I got nothing from you.
Julia: I didn't want you to break plans, I never wanted you to "drop everything" but I've been here since April 11th. I doubt you had plans the entire time I've been down.
Dan: How do you know you never talk to me before you came down. whatever I'm done.
Julia: I came down suddenyl. It's not like I had weeks to plan this out. But for a month you couldn't see me? when you went to Montreal you couldn't see me? What is up with that?
Julia: You're honestly done?
Dan: whatever I got stuff I gotta finish doing before I peace out
Dan: Ya
Julia: Wow this is it then? If you are done, then fuck it so am I. go throw your fucking life away for a fucking douchebag of a guy. But when it's your time of need, don't you dare look to me, because I'll walk right the fuck away from you. I finally know where I stand with you.
Dan: That's ok if you think he's a douchebag. but he's not, your just mad that I have someone.
Julia: wow. you are so fucking oblivious to everything in the world. Have a nice life.
Dan: NP I will. have fun wwwith yours.
And that, my friends, is how family members stop talking.
not to mention that after I wrote what I did on her facebook status, her dad wrote "thanks for calling to say HI to the rest of us when you are down." (I talked to everyone except him beacuse he was at work, and most of the time Isabel called me. But I did say, tell mike I say hi)
so then I wrote,
"Sorry mike, this wasn't much of a social visit like usual.
Tell your daughter thanks for calling me when she was in montreal."
Kind of bitchy, but fuck it, I'm done trying to be the one who keeps in all in, and doesn't make a big deal out of things that are a big deal to me.
but I am proud of myself because I finally said what I was thinking in the moment without editing it. Which for me, is a big thing. I usually overthink before I speak .Yeah it pretty much sucks that she changed so much and is now going to put her career and life on hold so she can put him through school, but it's her life that she can fuck up. and I am just going to sit back and wait for her to get pregnant and get trapped.
this is the first time that I've been in a honest friendship ending fight with someone, and I haven't regretted a thing that I said.