Serious Relationships and Marriage?!!?!?!?
Is a relationship really all its out to be?
Coming from someone who think that they are fully complete with a partner is going to try to answer this is the most reasonable fashion. After going from relationship to relationship I felt great. The whole singleness wasn't for such an extended period of time.
Being in a two year relationship in high school taught me a lot. Not to mention being in one with some a unique person. Her history, personality, and story was so amazing to me and eventually thought it was the best thing that happened to me. We would go out every week-end probably and would think all week how I wanted to see her. Yet every night we would stay at my place and watch a movie or go out to dinner. Occasionally we would go out and hang out with some of my friends. Towards the end of the relationship it got ugly and it tore me apart for a good year. Swearing that I'd never let it change who I am it only made me more emotional. I wasn't about to conform and become a total whore. Yet my heart was broken and nothing seemed to fill the void till I started dating again.
My next girlfriend was Danielle. She seemed to totally enjoy my company and adored the time we had together. We really wouldn't do much except watch movies, talk in person, and have sex. I don't remember one time where we really went out except to a show here and there. Most of the time we were having sex. I remember her complaining that we didn't go out and all this stuff. We did go see this single cell animation movie after she told me that. It was nice but couldn't change the fact that we were in Tampa and we didn't really go out to dinner or movies much.
Now my last ex was Katie. Probably the happiest I've ever been with a woman. I made some serious mistakes but in the end I was pretty happy with the relationship we had. We would spend lots of time talking and discussing things even if we disagreed and yet we still got along great. I remember endless times were I just laid in her bed just watching her read and talking about random stuff. We really didn't go out much to clubs or bars to dance but more of hang out with the neighbors and drink with them. So in a sense it wasn't just movies and sex. We spoke a lot more, had more mutual friends, and went out to dinner much more than I had with previous g/fs. I really wasn't too bored with it at all but knew we could of definitely gone out more but most of the time she was tired from work or had school stuff to take care of but we still partied and hung out with friends. We probably spent way too much time together and should of taken some time alone a bit more. Kinda really regret that and still think it would have been easier if had joined TKE earlier so we could of balanced time out so we could have more time to ourselves.
After reviewing all of this and looking at other relationships I've seen and been close too my conclusion is are we ready for something so serious at a young age?! I'm not going to lie the relationship that Katie and I had resembled very much a marriage is. I was happy but I think about it and wonder if I would have gotten bored of it later on.
Look at your parents or older people who are together. The most they do is like go out to see a movie or dinner. How often do your parents or older couples who are serious go out to clubs and party there asses off? The most exciting things to them are like holidays to maybe go out to dinner with some friends. All they do is hang out after work and usually they tired and have to cook dinner and eventually just sit there infront of the TV or something. After seeing Mr. and Mrs. Smith its like wow is that what I want in a marriage?! Yet what are you going to do to really spicen it up? It's like come on for real once we get a lot older or have an extremely serious relationship what are you going to do to have fun because most of the time your with the other person. Hey having sex is great and stuff but what are you going to do besides that? Go out drinking with your friends and hit up the clubs... How old and boring does that get once you've done with a bunch of times. Drinking and smoking with friends doesn't really get old because of conversation and company but you don't want to spend most of your time just staying at home with friends do you?
What do you want from a serious relationship? Yea sure you want the company and someone to love you back but how do you keep it from getting old and just staying home. I see so many serious relationships at a young age and I laugh b/c they usually just stay home or rarely go out. Hey no doubt I envy them because I was cool with it but doesn't it get old? I know I didn't get tired of it but I did want something to spicen up after awhile. The worst part is what if people get married soon. What are you going to do when you realize your getting super old and have to deal with work everyday practically and come home to this person and have all the responsibilities of being married. Should people be so serious at a young age and consider marrying someone at a young age. Are they ready to deal with the just going out to dinner, the occasional club here and there, and movie nights?!
I guess I've realized I enjoy the freedom to go out with my friends and party when I feel like it not having to worry about someone else. Yet I wish I had something that wasn't so serious and I could go out with my friends and not feel like ohh I want to spend all my time with the girl. I want it to be a relationship where I can go out to dinner and spend nights alone with her but also go out the next day with the guys and not be stuck in the same routine of living with the other person and having to come home to the wife practically. Ahh the confusion.
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit
Jay-eM
Coming from someone who think that they are fully complete with a partner is going to try to answer this is the most reasonable fashion. After going from relationship to relationship I felt great. The whole singleness wasn't for such an extended period of time.
Being in a two year relationship in high school taught me a lot. Not to mention being in one with some a unique person. Her history, personality, and story was so amazing to me and eventually thought it was the best thing that happened to me. We would go out every week-end probably and would think all week how I wanted to see her. Yet every night we would stay at my place and watch a movie or go out to dinner. Occasionally we would go out and hang out with some of my friends. Towards the end of the relationship it got ugly and it tore me apart for a good year. Swearing that I'd never let it change who I am it only made me more emotional. I wasn't about to conform and become a total whore. Yet my heart was broken and nothing seemed to fill the void till I started dating again.
My next girlfriend was Danielle. She seemed to totally enjoy my company and adored the time we had together. We really wouldn't do much except watch movies, talk in person, and have sex. I don't remember one time where we really went out except to a show here and there. Most of the time we were having sex. I remember her complaining that we didn't go out and all this stuff. We did go see this single cell animation movie after she told me that. It was nice but couldn't change the fact that we were in Tampa and we didn't really go out to dinner or movies much.
Now my last ex was Katie. Probably the happiest I've ever been with a woman. I made some serious mistakes but in the end I was pretty happy with the relationship we had. We would spend lots of time talking and discussing things even if we disagreed and yet we still got along great. I remember endless times were I just laid in her bed just watching her read and talking about random stuff. We really didn't go out much to clubs or bars to dance but more of hang out with the neighbors and drink with them. So in a sense it wasn't just movies and sex. We spoke a lot more, had more mutual friends, and went out to dinner much more than I had with previous g/fs. I really wasn't too bored with it at all but knew we could of definitely gone out more but most of the time she was tired from work or had school stuff to take care of but we still partied and hung out with friends. We probably spent way too much time together and should of taken some time alone a bit more. Kinda really regret that and still think it would have been easier if had joined TKE earlier so we could of balanced time out so we could have more time to ourselves.
After reviewing all of this and looking at other relationships I've seen and been close too my conclusion is are we ready for something so serious at a young age?! I'm not going to lie the relationship that Katie and I had resembled very much a marriage is. I was happy but I think about it and wonder if I would have gotten bored of it later on.
Look at your parents or older people who are together. The most they do is like go out to see a movie or dinner. How often do your parents or older couples who are serious go out to clubs and party there asses off? The most exciting things to them are like holidays to maybe go out to dinner with some friends. All they do is hang out after work and usually they tired and have to cook dinner and eventually just sit there infront of the TV or something. After seeing Mr. and Mrs. Smith its like wow is that what I want in a marriage?! Yet what are you going to do to really spicen it up? It's like come on for real once we get a lot older or have an extremely serious relationship what are you going to do to have fun because most of the time your with the other person. Hey having sex is great and stuff but what are you going to do besides that? Go out drinking with your friends and hit up the clubs... How old and boring does that get once you've done with a bunch of times. Drinking and smoking with friends doesn't really get old because of conversation and company but you don't want to spend most of your time just staying at home with friends do you?
What do you want from a serious relationship? Yea sure you want the company and someone to love you back but how do you keep it from getting old and just staying home. I see so many serious relationships at a young age and I laugh b/c they usually just stay home or rarely go out. Hey no doubt I envy them because I was cool with it but doesn't it get old? I know I didn't get tired of it but I did want something to spicen up after awhile. The worst part is what if people get married soon. What are you going to do when you realize your getting super old and have to deal with work everyday practically and come home to this person and have all the responsibilities of being married. Should people be so serious at a young age and consider marrying someone at a young age. Are they ready to deal with the just going out to dinner, the occasional club here and there, and movie nights?!
I guess I've realized I enjoy the freedom to go out with my friends and party when I feel like it not having to worry about someone else. Yet I wish I had something that wasn't so serious and I could go out with my friends and not feel like ohh I want to spend all my time with the girl. I want it to be a relationship where I can go out to dinner and spend nights alone with her but also go out the next day with the guys and not be stuck in the same routine of living with the other person and having to come home to the wife practically. Ahh the confusion.
Father, Son, and Holy Spirit
Jay-eM