hobbies
I think life would be a smidge easier if I easily identified with a group, label or subcommunity. Being equal parts hipster, gamer geek, and bro (and other things), and being passionate about all of them makes me feel very bait-and-switch when I interact with people. I can talk in depth about something like a video game mechanic but I am equally as passionate about going to see live music shows. This is something I tend to revisit the same time every year, as my public social media feeds are very indicative of these "juju seasons" - I spend the spring and summer going to events and great restaurants around town, the late summer going gaga over video game culture culminating with PAX Prime, and the early fall obsessing about football.
It's not the worst problem to have, and it sure as hell makes life more interesting, but it makes it really hard to develop new bonds with new people who basically like exactly one-third of my persona. I don't want to have to apologize to people who see me as an uber-nerd about my ridiculous love of sports, or my geeky friends about my trendy/hip fashion sense and obsession with makeup, or my bro friends as to why I run teams for Pokemon-themed barcrawls while cosplaying as a Hoppip.
I still wouldn't change a thing, but it is hard making meaningful relationships with people from scratch with this kind of cross to bear. It's probably why the urge to relocate to where close pools of friends that understand my quirks is very strong.
It's not the worst problem to have, and it sure as hell makes life more interesting, but it makes it really hard to develop new bonds with new people who basically like exactly one-third of my persona. I don't want to have to apologize to people who see me as an uber-nerd about my ridiculous love of sports, or my geeky friends about my trendy/hip fashion sense and obsession with makeup, or my bro friends as to why I run teams for Pokemon-themed barcrawls while cosplaying as a Hoppip.
I still wouldn't change a thing, but it is hard making meaningful relationships with people from scratch with this kind of cross to bear. It's probably why the urge to relocate to where close pools of friends that understand my quirks is very strong.