The Top Five Regrets of the Dying and The Top Five Advices of my Father

[joyful_molly]

Warning: The following entry discusses death, dying and morbid advices.

Comments

[delaese]

I find number three very personal. I always told Shane I would never see her dead. I refused to go to her funeral, although I did go to her wake. As a result I never really felt she left. I went to Craig's funeral and wish I hadn't. It just left me empty.

[joyful_molly]

As a result I never really felt she left.

That's what he said as well. I wish I'd followed his advice more often when it comes to that; just like you, all that was left after a funeral was emptiness.

*big hugs*

[delaese]

::Hugs very tightly.:: I can understand how some people need that closure. But to me it just seemed a vile hypocrisy; platitudes tossed about by people who refused to help care for her in life. It would have been a farce. I much prefer to recall the bold woman with the camera and curled hair who once made a pack of bikers pose pretty for her.

[joyful_molly]

I only attend funerals if I know that the person who died would have wanted me to be there. That was a lesson I learned many years ago, when a friend of mine died in a motorcycle accident and his mother told his girlfriend (whom she couldn't stand) - "well, too bad things didn't work out for your two, isn't it!"). Nothing like a good fight next to an open grave... *shudder*

I much prefer to recall the bold woman with the camera and curled hair who once made a pack of bikers pose pretty for her.

*hugs*

[veronica_rich]

By the "hard work" maybe they mean, don't always think about work even when you're not doing it? I used to have that problem badly until I started forcing myself to focus on other things when not working.

[joyful_molly]

That's a good point. I can imagine that many people find it difficult to separate work from private life (and today's technology makes it even more difficult).

[joyful_molly]

Hehe - well, though he's a very organised and orderly man, he did not make a will. We agreed that it would be far more fun to see my siblings tearing each other apart over everything!

And HI back! Long time no read! And thanks again for the unexpected and therefore twice as lovely Christmas surprise! :)

[chaotic_binky]

Number 5 is very true - I achieved all the goals I set for myself without making new ones and became so depressed. Now if I realise a goal I always have more in reserve.

[joyful_molly]

Same here. When times are bad, such goals can really help you get through it, because you know there is something you want to achieve/see/taste/hear etc. Seeing how "Meeting the giant rabbit from My Friend Harvey" is still on my bucket list, I don't think I'll ever manage to tick all items off, though!

[honorat]

I've told my family to do whatever makes them the most peaceful after my death, but if I had a choice, I'd like to be a university science lab skeleton. :D I'd get to go to school forever and be involved in lots of practical jokes.

[joyful_molly]

That would be absolutely awesome! Love the idea, you could become the female Jeremy Bentham! :D