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Surprise surprise, I have a new boy in my life. I have been kind of dating this guy Chris since before Christmas. It started out as a late night make-out, drinking buddy thing. The first night we hung out we hard core made out, I stayed the night, but nothing happened. I then stayed at his house the next 3 nights and came over during the day so we could nap together. Then, it was Christmas Eve and I left for Fort Worth. Christmas day, he was in Dallas and I went and saw him, yes on Christmas day, before I left for Oklahoma. This seems serious fast, but it's not serious at all. Now, we see each other every few days and he calls me every day. I don't know what this is. I would call it dating, this means I am free to date other people and so is he. In fact, I have been dating other people, just none I like as much as him.
Here is the weirdness. Shortly after New Years I ran into Chris' roommate, Brandon. Brandon is a cool guy and we hung out when my girls left me for a little while. we had fun, well, then he starts telling me that Chris is a waste of my time and that he is a player and all this stuff. He also tells me how he wishes he had met me first and how great I am and all of that good stuff. Then, another person tells me he used to be kind of Shady. Well, then my friend Charles, who apparently is a good friend of Chris' pulls me aside and tells me he doesn't want me to get hurt. He says Chris is not the relationship type and that he is dating another girl named Amber and all this. I tell him I am dating other people now too and it is no surprise. He says Chris is not the type to get in a relationship, that this is just him.
Normally, right there I would say, ok, and quit dating the guy, but I told Chris all about everyone calling him shady and all that crap. We talked about it and said we would both be honest with each other and all that and he told me he is a relationship guy. I brought this talk up to Charles and he says, "Well, in a way he is, he dated this girl for awhile and they broke up a while back and he went back to playing around." The thing is, I used to be a relationship girl, Simon and I broke up, and I went to playing around. There are plenty of guys out there who will tell you I played them and am shady and no good. I have even had female friends tell their male friends I am not a good girl to date right now, I am not a relationship girl and all that. So, is Chris like me? Did he have a relationship, decide to go out and have some fun and maybe isn't in a relationship mode now (like me) but may be eventually? I also told Charles he calls me everyday and he said that is unusual for Chris.
He is really sweet to me, he makes me FEEL special. He is always playing with my hair and touching my face and winking at me. He came over before going out of town to see his mom the other day. we just cuddled on the couch and my roommate and I made him watch Sex and the City. He didn't complain, just told us to watch what made us happy. He kissed me at the door and called me when he got to his mom's house. I was also his date on his birthday. Birthdays, Christmas...I don't know. Am I like every other girl? Is this something I should wait out? I think so, because he does make me feel special and I like hanging out with him and even if we don't ever have a relationship it is fun for now. Or am I getting played? Am I going to be that girl everyone talks about when I am not around and laugh at how naive I am? I am not naive, though, I know where I stand...maybe.
Man, this dating thing is so much harder than the brochures said...
Here is the weirdness. Shortly after New Years I ran into Chris' roommate, Brandon. Brandon is a cool guy and we hung out when my girls left me for a little while. we had fun, well, then he starts telling me that Chris is a waste of my time and that he is a player and all this stuff. He also tells me how he wishes he had met me first and how great I am and all of that good stuff. Then, another person tells me he used to be kind of Shady. Well, then my friend Charles, who apparently is a good friend of Chris' pulls me aside and tells me he doesn't want me to get hurt. He says Chris is not the relationship type and that he is dating another girl named Amber and all this. I tell him I am dating other people now too and it is no surprise. He says Chris is not the type to get in a relationship, that this is just him.
Normally, right there I would say, ok, and quit dating the guy, but I told Chris all about everyone calling him shady and all that crap. We talked about it and said we would both be honest with each other and all that and he told me he is a relationship guy. I brought this talk up to Charles and he says, "Well, in a way he is, he dated this girl for awhile and they broke up a while back and he went back to playing around." The thing is, I used to be a relationship girl, Simon and I broke up, and I went to playing around. There are plenty of guys out there who will tell you I played them and am shady and no good. I have even had female friends tell their male friends I am not a good girl to date right now, I am not a relationship girl and all that. So, is Chris like me? Did he have a relationship, decide to go out and have some fun and maybe isn't in a relationship mode now (like me) but may be eventually? I also told Charles he calls me everyday and he said that is unusual for Chris.
He is really sweet to me, he makes me FEEL special. He is always playing with my hair and touching my face and winking at me. He came over before going out of town to see his mom the other day. we just cuddled on the couch and my roommate and I made him watch Sex and the City. He didn't complain, just told us to watch what made us happy. He kissed me at the door and called me when he got to his mom's house. I was also his date on his birthday. Birthdays, Christmas...I don't know. Am I like every other girl? Is this something I should wait out? I think so, because he does make me feel special and I like hanging out with him and even if we don't ever have a relationship it is fun for now. Or am I getting played? Am I going to be that girl everyone talks about when I am not around and laugh at how naive I am? I am not naive, though, I know where I stand...maybe.
Man, this dating thing is so much harder than the brochures said...