Relationships are Weird
I'm just not sure I completely grasp the proper way to approach and maintain a friendship with the sex of your attraction.
Have you ever let someone kiss you just to be kissed? You don't have physical urges towards them. You enjoy their presence, and they most definitely enjoy your presence and you know it. So when said person leans in for that first kiss, you just let it happen. Not like you just freeze and wait for it to stop, but you melt into it. You let your mind turn a blind eye and your body takes over. Or is it your soul? Maybe it is your soul and it's not that you just want physical contact, but you're not pushing this person away because you're comfortable with them. Makes sense if you two are friends.
So you kiss and you wrap your arms around each other and then you both know one of you should stop. It's a first kiss with a friend after all. That's when you've met your match, someone who can't stop. And your mind taps in and says "hey, you don't want to do more than that. it just doesn't happen that way."
But why doesn't it happen that way when two people aren't dating, when two people are just two friends who are kissing. Why do we have to kiss today, stop, then kiss some more next time, and then kiss some more after that, and then maybe all the way after that? if it's safe sex, why are we calling people who "go all the way" with people they aren't dating, sluts or easy? it may seem backwards, but it's really just a different way of being with someone, of getting to know how you fit with someone. and afterwards, maybe you want more, or maybe you've realized that you two aren't a physical match so you stay friends or you go separate ways. isn't this a lot like a traditional date when you get to know someone intellectually? Some people start by getting to know someone physically!
Huh.
So that's what's on my mind.
Have you ever let someone kiss you just to be kissed? You don't have physical urges towards them. You enjoy their presence, and they most definitely enjoy your presence and you know it. So when said person leans in for that first kiss, you just let it happen. Not like you just freeze and wait for it to stop, but you melt into it. You let your mind turn a blind eye and your body takes over. Or is it your soul? Maybe it is your soul and it's not that you just want physical contact, but you're not pushing this person away because you're comfortable with them. Makes sense if you two are friends.
So you kiss and you wrap your arms around each other and then you both know one of you should stop. It's a first kiss with a friend after all. That's when you've met your match, someone who can't stop. And your mind taps in and says "hey, you don't want to do more than that. it just doesn't happen that way."
But why doesn't it happen that way when two people aren't dating, when two people are just two friends who are kissing. Why do we have to kiss today, stop, then kiss some more next time, and then kiss some more after that, and then maybe all the way after that? if it's safe sex, why are we calling people who "go all the way" with people they aren't dating, sluts or easy? it may seem backwards, but it's really just a different way of being with someone, of getting to know how you fit with someone. and afterwards, maybe you want more, or maybe you've realized that you two aren't a physical match so you stay friends or you go separate ways. isn't this a lot like a traditional date when you get to know someone intellectually? Some people start by getting to know someone physically!
Huh.
So that's what's on my mind.