an actual entry
So I know I never really say anything meaningful in the LJ particularly because I dont' feel it necessary, or I dont' want to offend anyone publicly, but I have a few things on my mind that I would like everyone to have on theirs too.
I have recently learned about the extremity of how men often talk about women they dont know. For example, when men gather together for a meal, often the topic of conversation is how they wanted to 'fuck that girl in the ass' or 'look at that bitch's tits at 2 o' clock' etc, things of particularly demeaning language towards random women that i care not to repeat. I have heard of times when employees of retail stores would take turns peaking around corners to look at a women bending over causing visual of her breasts. However, once a male learns of a friend of his who's dating a particular girl, he refrains from speaking in a disrespectful way. It's not that he's giving her respect, he's respecting the man dating the girl, by not disrespecting what he has. I think it's one thing to say a girls hot or whatever, and i never had a problem with guys doing that. But I've learned that it's more than that. I've learned it's very common and even men who don't partake in it or like it, don't say anything because it's all they've known, and it's not seen as something worth changing. EVERY WOMAN DESERVES RESPECT FROM A MALE, WHETHER HE KNOWS THEM OR NOT.
When I heard about this I cried. I cried because its really, really, sad and sickening to know that a woman can't go into a bookstore without being disrespected and exploited. To O.K. this kind of language and disrespect is just furthing the problem of men disrespecting women, a characteristic commonly found in rapists, etc.
Please speak up, guys. If you are a male who doesn't partake and doesn't enjoy this kind of talk around you, say something. The longer no one is told how immature, disgusting, and disrespectful that kind of demeanor is, the longer it goes on. A lot of times it's for attention, and making it apparent that it's not entertaining or making you laugh, may get them to stop. I'm not saying change your friends, but I'm saying every little effort helps. In amnesty we write letters, with the mentality that every letter can make a difference, and I like to think a lot of things are that way. Everyone's little effort will help. Don't sit back thinking you can't do anything. And guys who do this, grow up. It'll only leave you lonely, because women don't like to be treated like shit, and when you don't respect them, it shows, thus, you don't get laid. (Just trying to speak in terms you'd understand)
Thanks everyone, and I hope this made sense because it's late and I'm tired.
=Namaste=
I have recently learned about the extremity of how men often talk about women they dont know. For example, when men gather together for a meal, often the topic of conversation is how they wanted to 'fuck that girl in the ass' or 'look at that bitch's tits at 2 o' clock' etc, things of particularly demeaning language towards random women that i care not to repeat. I have heard of times when employees of retail stores would take turns peaking around corners to look at a women bending over causing visual of her breasts. However, once a male learns of a friend of his who's dating a particular girl, he refrains from speaking in a disrespectful way. It's not that he's giving her respect, he's respecting the man dating the girl, by not disrespecting what he has. I think it's one thing to say a girls hot or whatever, and i never had a problem with guys doing that. But I've learned that it's more than that. I've learned it's very common and even men who don't partake in it or like it, don't say anything because it's all they've known, and it's not seen as something worth changing. EVERY WOMAN DESERVES RESPECT FROM A MALE, WHETHER HE KNOWS THEM OR NOT.
When I heard about this I cried. I cried because its really, really, sad and sickening to know that a woman can't go into a bookstore without being disrespected and exploited. To O.K. this kind of language and disrespect is just furthing the problem of men disrespecting women, a characteristic commonly found in rapists, etc.
Please speak up, guys. If you are a male who doesn't partake and doesn't enjoy this kind of talk around you, say something. The longer no one is told how immature, disgusting, and disrespectful that kind of demeanor is, the longer it goes on. A lot of times it's for attention, and making it apparent that it's not entertaining or making you laugh, may get them to stop. I'm not saying change your friends, but I'm saying every little effort helps. In amnesty we write letters, with the mentality that every letter can make a difference, and I like to think a lot of things are that way. Everyone's little effort will help. Don't sit back thinking you can't do anything. And guys who do this, grow up. It'll only leave you lonely, because women don't like to be treated like shit, and when you don't respect them, it shows, thus, you don't get laid. (Just trying to speak in terms you'd understand)
Thanks everyone, and I hope this made sense because it's late and I'm tired.
=Namaste=