I’ve been writing a lot about Touch Starvation lately. Touch is one of my Love Languages. I have all kinds of baggage wrapped up in it, and, in fact, have been working on an adjacent theory about how emotional trauma affects the expression and repression of Love Languages. But that’s for another time.

What do you do when Touch is one of your LLs and ( Read more... )

http://www.theferrett.com/ferrettworks/2016/03/be-brutally-polyamorous/"“I’m polyamorous, but my partner’s new to this. They say they’re okay with what I’ve told them about poly, but… I can tell they’re nervous. So I’m going to damp it down for a while just to be kind to them - I’ll go easy on the side-dating.”

Don’t do that.

Your kindness will rip ’ ( Read more... )

Him: I just want to ask, and I don't want to be rude, so if I'm stepping into anything here, please tell me. But, is it ... do you just like the thrill? I mean, I don't know how to say it, but, you know, the thrill ( Read more... )

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OK, everyone else is doing this, I will to:

49 38 Questions for Grownups (where'd the others go?)

Tired of all of those surveys made up by high school kids?! 'Have you ever kissed someone? Missed someone? Told someone you loved them? Drank alcohol? Bah!

So instead, here: 49 38 questions for the people who are a little older!

What bill do you hate ( Read more... )

After a rather pleasant evening in the company of some of my favorite Freaks, datan0de IMs me the next day with the following (reproduced with permission):

Welcome to Lie Of Omission Theater, where we use completely true statements to fabricate a complete lie!

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Can this song be any more perfect for me? Other than the very last line about "can't live my life without". This goes along with my page about What I Want In A Relationship and the end bit of How I "Do" Poly. Unfortunately, I can't find the video in a blog-able format, so you'll just have to follow the link to see/hear it.  This song is perfect for ( Read more... )

Because I'm so good at procrastinating my chores, I decided to create a new wallpaper for my laptop. Usually I just rotate out images from my stock photography. But recently, something unusual occured. I actually have a photo of me and one of my sweeties ... and I like how I look in it! First of all, I rarely like how I look in photos. Second, I'm ( Read more... )

so when do the bombs start falling?

I'm very happy right now.  I'm bouncy.  I had to say it because I'm so happy and I can't keep it silent but no one that I talk to about stuff like this is online right now so I'm effusing all over LJ.  This scares me.  It can't possibly remain this good for very long.

( Lots of babbling about happiness )