My Barely Scratched Surface
I wrote this back in March, but was hesitant to show it. Anyhoo, here it is.
Relationships can be a mystical journey of its own. It could be a beautiful sequence of events that take your heart away, or just a plain struggle. The complex and abstract minds involved are ridiculously difficult to decipher. Some spend hours wondering how one can mold another's behavior and make it seem relative. Others try and solve the problem straight on by "assuming" this is what's happening and so you must do this in order fix things. And well, others will just simply ignore the whole situation as a whole and pretend as if it was nothing but a simulation dream emulator. No matter the case, we as people take an arduous amount of time figuring out what our significant other wants, needs, desires, and feels.
I for one have still yet to scratch the surface of the Female mind. What's conflicting about womens' train of thought in relation to mens' is probably the degree of intent and expectations between the genders. I would like to believe that we as individuals set a standard for other individuals as soon as we see them. We immediately set pillars for those who are even remotely close to being considered something more than a friend. Then there are those certain individuals who really could care less about any of that and not really pay attention to it at all. In lamest terms, they are completely oblivious to what the other person is feeling, thinking, wanting, and wondering. When the two parties collide, conflict occurs.
The hardest obstacle for men and women would probably be communication. It's the one variable that can ultimately solve the equation or just leave it there unsolved only to struggle wondering what that missing variable may be. Since I hate math, I can't believe I just wrote a math related metaphor. Anyways, communication is essential for women and men to live together in harmony. Some say that lying is the natural form of communication between men and women. As pessimistic as that may seem, I would find that to be quite relative. The reason why most relationships falter is because lying occurs 68% of the time. And yes I did make up that percentage to scare you. Whether it be a white lie, a lie of omission, or a bold face lie, we as people lie. It's an involuntary habit that is forever engraved into our protocol. As I've heard before, everybody lies, and until they are faced with a back-against-the-wall scenario or life-threatening situation, people will continue to lie. Especially to the ones they care about. Why you may ask? Hidden agendas, kept secrets, shame, guilt, pride, greed, vulnerability, self-defense. Pick your poison.
Whatever the case may be, I'm still on this journey to find some sort of balance between it all. This pro-longed star search for my american idol will probably take me to places I don't want to be and to places I would want to stay forever. Coming from an outside perspective, I've seen what relationships can do to people. It can cause people to act in ways they normally wouldn't. Someday I hope to feel this way too. Hopefully my time will come when one day my hand will be holding someone else's.
Until then.
Relationships can be a mystical journey of its own. It could be a beautiful sequence of events that take your heart away, or just a plain struggle. The complex and abstract minds involved are ridiculously difficult to decipher. Some spend hours wondering how one can mold another's behavior and make it seem relative. Others try and solve the problem straight on by "assuming" this is what's happening and so you must do this in order fix things. And well, others will just simply ignore the whole situation as a whole and pretend as if it was nothing but a simulation dream emulator. No matter the case, we as people take an arduous amount of time figuring out what our significant other wants, needs, desires, and feels.
I for one have still yet to scratch the surface of the Female mind. What's conflicting about womens' train of thought in relation to mens' is probably the degree of intent and expectations between the genders. I would like to believe that we as individuals set a standard for other individuals as soon as we see them. We immediately set pillars for those who are even remotely close to being considered something more than a friend. Then there are those certain individuals who really could care less about any of that and not really pay attention to it at all. In lamest terms, they are completely oblivious to what the other person is feeling, thinking, wanting, and wondering. When the two parties collide, conflict occurs.
The hardest obstacle for men and women would probably be communication. It's the one variable that can ultimately solve the equation or just leave it there unsolved only to struggle wondering what that missing variable may be. Since I hate math, I can't believe I just wrote a math related metaphor. Anyways, communication is essential for women and men to live together in harmony. Some say that lying is the natural form of communication between men and women. As pessimistic as that may seem, I would find that to be quite relative. The reason why most relationships falter is because lying occurs 68% of the time. And yes I did make up that percentage to scare you. Whether it be a white lie, a lie of omission, or a bold face lie, we as people lie. It's an involuntary habit that is forever engraved into our protocol. As I've heard before, everybody lies, and until they are faced with a back-against-the-wall scenario or life-threatening situation, people will continue to lie. Especially to the ones they care about. Why you may ask? Hidden agendas, kept secrets, shame, guilt, pride, greed, vulnerability, self-defense. Pick your poison.
Whatever the case may be, I'm still on this journey to find some sort of balance between it all. This pro-longed star search for my american idol will probably take me to places I don't want to be and to places I would want to stay forever. Coming from an outside perspective, I've seen what relationships can do to people. It can cause people to act in ways they normally wouldn't. Someday I hope to feel this way too. Hopefully my time will come when one day my hand will be holding someone else's.
Until then.