to all the drama queens who insist on airing their private business on livejournal....
ok so here it is. first of all, i think you all are being pretty immature. and you know who you are, and i will name you because i am not afraid to say things to people's faces. im taking about the mess between chrissy, christyal, patrick, and gina (and i guess sean since theres alot of hate there). first of all, im really worried about all of you. ive seen whats happened in the last year, especially with you christyal and patrick, and what i have seen is whether it is your fault or someone elses, youve managed to alienate yourself from almost all of your really close friends, and this indicates to me that something is seriously wrong. so why cant you ever tell anyone whats wrong while youre calm? you always end up screaming insults, and thats not the way it works. i know shit went down with sean, and im not taking sides. but i think you need to get help so that you can get past it, because right now, all youre doing is hurting yourself further and further. i know it is hard to lose a friend, especially under shady circumstances, but you need to move past it so you can get on with your life, because right now it seems like all i hear is that christyal is badmouthing sean in public again, and let me tell you that it is mainly making you look bad in public, not the other way around. also, you may say things about how nobody ever comes to you, well i will tell you why. its because you and patrick issolate yourselves. you never pick up the phone and call anyone. i havent talked to sean about any of this. im not taking sides. but i do know that you have never been a person to call and include everyone. you never call me to hang out, you never just call me to talk, you never really seem to tell anyone whats really bothering you. how are your friends supposed to be understanding if you cant even tell them whats really wrong (without shouting and without drama and without totally offending them)? do you know why sean probably has never come to talk to you? its because he knows that having a "talk" with you is code for you screaming insults at him, and him being expected to just listen, and then apologize. that is not the way a friendship works. sean may or may not be in the wrong, im not taking sides on that, but i dont think there is ever just one person in an arguement. i think you need to stop concentrating on what sean did and look inside youself and try to see how christyal should have acted differently, becuase your behavior whenever there is a problem usually just serves to escalate whatever is happening, instead of actually fixing any of the problems. and patrick, im really surprised at you, because you create this image of yourself as being really understanding, of having your own definite opinion, but youve really just taken christyals side in all of this and i dont think thats fair either. i know that you both have been seriously hurt by seans behavior, but i dont think its fair to just go along with everything. and gina, i dont think youre going onto livejournal and feeding into everything is going to make it any better, it just makes the whole situation worse.
and now onto chrissy. first of all, why would you post such a vague post that is obviously directed at christyal if you didnt want to start shit on livejournal? dont be stupid. if you had really just wanted to talk to christyal, you would have picked up the phone and called her and said, hey, i know its finals, but we really need to talk, are you free on wednesday? chrissy, i have told you this many times, and iwill say it again. you need to get your shit together, and tell people to their faces what bothers them. its ok to vent sometimes to someone else, but you let the problems get in the way of the friendship by not talking about it until it is such a big problem all you can do is scream. and you tend to do these little behind your back things, like post on lj instead of confronting the problem head on because its easier for you that way, but it only makes the people on the recieving end more angry. so dont do it if you really dont want to start drama.
this whole situation has gone on far too long, and i must say that i am getting to the point where i dont really want to be friends with any of you. i dont know whose side is right or wrong and i dont really care. there is too much finger pointing and accusations for me to stand. you all cause the drama. each of you have known each other forever, you cant tell me you dont know what you do pisses each other off and that you could act otherwise, but CHOOSE not to. what kind of friends are those? really really fake friends. if you honestly cared about each other, when it came down to it, all you would care about is that your friend was healthy and happy, and that doesnt seem to be on any of your minds. if you want to keep each other as friends, you each need to have a serious change in behavior, because high school is long gone. the real world is right outside, as soon as we leave college, and this type of behavior will get you no where in grown-up land. the shady-behavior needs to end. the lying needs to end. the going behind each others backs needs to end. and if you want to really know what i think, i think you all need to go to some serious counseling, because i dont think these problems are going to get solved on their own. and i want to stress, that im only putting this out here because i am seriously worried about you guys, because i have a good outside view of what has happened in the last few years, and its that christyal and patrick used to be at the center of things...and have slowly moved out of the circle and alienated themselves (rightlyfully or wrongfully i do not profess to know). well i hope some of you take this to heart (if you even read my journals) and decide to try to make things work. i think that if you really want it, you all could pull the group back together again, but it is going to take alot of forgiveness, which is something i havent seen yet from any of you really. and christyal: if you miss sean so much and his behavior has hurt you so much, why dont you try going to him calmly and talking to him. you could get horribly rejected, but i feel like youre still concentrating on this so much, that it isnt really over. if you were really over sean, you wouldnt still be ranting. so you either need to decide to make up, or to live without, and ajust your behavior accordingly.if you need or want to talk to me, my line is always open. but im not going to call you this time.
-Holly
and now onto chrissy. first of all, why would you post such a vague post that is obviously directed at christyal if you didnt want to start shit on livejournal? dont be stupid. if you had really just wanted to talk to christyal, you would have picked up the phone and called her and said, hey, i know its finals, but we really need to talk, are you free on wednesday? chrissy, i have told you this many times, and iwill say it again. you need to get your shit together, and tell people to their faces what bothers them. its ok to vent sometimes to someone else, but you let the problems get in the way of the friendship by not talking about it until it is such a big problem all you can do is scream. and you tend to do these little behind your back things, like post on lj instead of confronting the problem head on because its easier for you that way, but it only makes the people on the recieving end more angry. so dont do it if you really dont want to start drama.
this whole situation has gone on far too long, and i must say that i am getting to the point where i dont really want to be friends with any of you. i dont know whose side is right or wrong and i dont really care. there is too much finger pointing and accusations for me to stand. you all cause the drama. each of you have known each other forever, you cant tell me you dont know what you do pisses each other off and that you could act otherwise, but CHOOSE not to. what kind of friends are those? really really fake friends. if you honestly cared about each other, when it came down to it, all you would care about is that your friend was healthy and happy, and that doesnt seem to be on any of your minds. if you want to keep each other as friends, you each need to have a serious change in behavior, because high school is long gone. the real world is right outside, as soon as we leave college, and this type of behavior will get you no where in grown-up land. the shady-behavior needs to end. the lying needs to end. the going behind each others backs needs to end. and if you want to really know what i think, i think you all need to go to some serious counseling, because i dont think these problems are going to get solved on their own. and i want to stress, that im only putting this out here because i am seriously worried about you guys, because i have a good outside view of what has happened in the last few years, and its that christyal and patrick used to be at the center of things...and have slowly moved out of the circle and alienated themselves (rightlyfully or wrongfully i do not profess to know). well i hope some of you take this to heart (if you even read my journals) and decide to try to make things work. i think that if you really want it, you all could pull the group back together again, but it is going to take alot of forgiveness, which is something i havent seen yet from any of you really. and christyal: if you miss sean so much and his behavior has hurt you so much, why dont you try going to him calmly and talking to him. you could get horribly rejected, but i feel like youre still concentrating on this so much, that it isnt really over. if you were really over sean, you wouldnt still be ranting. so you either need to decide to make up, or to live without, and ajust your behavior accordingly.if you need or want to talk to me, my line is always open. but im not going to call you this time.
-Holly