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[jhcentrl]

I'm underappreciated. That's the way you all make me feel.

If it's my fault, raise your voice. I want to hear your side.

This is the most bullshit epiphany I've had in a long time. I mean, maybe I really am someone who doesn't accomplish anything. Ya know, cuz I didn't graduate from a four year institution in three years, move out on my own at the

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[benchwarmer44]

i gotta go to bed in a sec so i'll be brief but a couple of important points. the first is that, while it's great you're willing to go out that much out of your way to do stuff for other people, you should be conscious about where the line is drawn. I can kind of understand the thing with Kyle, I would do that for my closest friends, but I would definetely tell them they better make sure their other options are exhausted first. With the other person, that clearly isn't something I would do, and it could be a matter of personal preference. I'll drive ito go see friends, but I measure it against time I'll be spending vs time I committ getting there. ie, if i drive an hour somewhere to see someone, i better be spending the better part of a day to see him/her. why should you have to go all the way to bainbridge instead of the other way around. it's because you're nice, but being nice often translates into getting wasted time and becoming a doormat.

in regards to the work thing, if i were you and people didn't live up to their responsibilities, I wouldn't have done it for them. if you had no choice, then make sure those irresponsible people get whats coming to them. you've got to draw the line so people will know you won't stand up for their garbage. life gets easier when people know not to mess with you.

"You're too busy worrying about your relationships with hardcore christian girls as well as your friendship/business relationship with James."
- i'll let that one slide ;)

"I'm just curious... how many people recognize and congratulate you on your accomplishments?"

People who know me well don't congratulate me very often because it doesn't make me feel any better or any worse. it usually just annoys me because when i do a good job, i know i did a good job. if i messed something up, i know i messed up 110% but i gave it my best.

tangent - I read something in hbr by a CEO advisor and he said "When you become friends with the CEO, you lose your value." So, it's not to say that I don't want any friends. What the quote means is, as an advsior to a CEO, if you become his yes man and sugar coat quarterly reports etc, you're useless. I believe that's the same thing with friends and people, the moment you start agreeing with everything I say and do, you're not really being my friend anymore. Friends get angry at each other, they fight, they argue, and then they make up - the beauty of it is they become better friends for it. In a long convoluted sense, that is why I don't like compliments. They're sugarcoated, meaningless, and unconstructive. Unless it's from a girl. And if im going to get laid because of it. jk

so in short, people i know superficially congratulate me, but people close to me don't usually bother. it's not a reflection of me, it's a reflection of the type of people i'm friends with.