My views
Cross posters to bi_people
Hi,
My name is Jessie and I am a bisexual woman in my twenties in a long term (and wonderful) relationship with a man.
I have had sexual partners of both sexes. Being bisexual isn't just something I label myself as because I occasionally get drunk and make out my friends. It is my sexual orientation and I have come out to all of my friends and family. It’s something that I'm proud of and happy with.
My first bug-bear with people judging my sexuality is that they either think that I:
a) Just do it to turn men on, or
b) Don't have the courage to come out as gay so I'm sitting on the fence.
Both of these opinions really upset me. I personally think it is equally as hard to come out as bisexual. The general view of bisexual people is one of confusion and intolerance. People often presume that bisexuals are more likely to be adulterous, or that we sleep around. I find it hard to reach acceptance as a bisexual with both straight people and gay people.
The main thing that upsets me as a bisexual woman is the write-off my orientation gets because I am in a committed 'heterosexual' relationship. Just because I am now with a man I intend to spend the rest of my life with, people seem to think that I am no longer bisexual and I have come out of my 'phase'. This blatant disregard for my sexuality, my strength of character and my life choices is so offensive to me.
I was wondering how many other bisexual people feel like this.
It would be nice to get some feedback from everyone.
Ok thanks :)
Jessie
Xxx
Hi,
My name is Jessie and I am a bisexual woman in my twenties in a long term (and wonderful) relationship with a man.
I have had sexual partners of both sexes. Being bisexual isn't just something I label myself as because I occasionally get drunk and make out my friends. It is my sexual orientation and I have come out to all of my friends and family. It’s something that I'm proud of and happy with.
My first bug-bear with people judging my sexuality is that they either think that I:
a) Just do it to turn men on, or
b) Don't have the courage to come out as gay so I'm sitting on the fence.
Both of these opinions really upset me. I personally think it is equally as hard to come out as bisexual. The general view of bisexual people is one of confusion and intolerance. People often presume that bisexuals are more likely to be adulterous, or that we sleep around. I find it hard to reach acceptance as a bisexual with both straight people and gay people.
The main thing that upsets me as a bisexual woman is the write-off my orientation gets because I am in a committed 'heterosexual' relationship. Just because I am now with a man I intend to spend the rest of my life with, people seem to think that I am no longer bisexual and I have come out of my 'phase'. This blatant disregard for my sexuality, my strength of character and my life choices is so offensive to me.
I was wondering how many other bisexual people feel like this.
It would be nice to get some feedback from everyone.
Ok thanks :)
Jessie
Xxx