SOO tired of trans related complications
As a disclaimer, I don't have any issue with BEING trans. I mean I'm not proud OR ashamed of it, much like I'm not proud or ashamed of being of predominately Irish heritage or female. They're just things that are.
However, I am sort of tired of dealing with hassles relating to being trans. I recently applied to a bunch of seasonal mall jobs: The Limited, NY & Company, Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body Works. I had an interview at NY&Co this evening after my forreal job. I thought it went pretty well overall, but I sort of got forced into disclosing that I'm trans simply because it'd come up in background checks as well as reference checks from former employers.
It's not so much that I have an issue with people knowing. It's just that once you're labeled as 'the trans chick' any other label applied to you ends up being pretty ancillary. And right now, I'm at a stage in my life where being trans isn't something I want to be defined as primarily. I mean, I could be that chick who works at a school during the day, or who quit TaeKwanDo over perceived ideological conflicts, or even the girl who wears too much eye makeup and looks like a shitty corporate version of a goth chick. Being trans just isn't significant in my day to day life and it sort of irritates the fuck out of me that I'm sort of forced into that identity by simple things like getting a job selling clothes over Xmas.
However, I am sort of tired of dealing with hassles relating to being trans. I recently applied to a bunch of seasonal mall jobs: The Limited, NY & Company, Victoria's Secret, Bath and Body Works. I had an interview at NY&Co this evening after my forreal job. I thought it went pretty well overall, but I sort of got forced into disclosing that I'm trans simply because it'd come up in background checks as well as reference checks from former employers.
It's not so much that I have an issue with people knowing. It's just that once you're labeled as 'the trans chick' any other label applied to you ends up being pretty ancillary. And right now, I'm at a stage in my life where being trans isn't something I want to be defined as primarily. I mean, I could be that chick who works at a school during the day, or who quit TaeKwanDo over perceived ideological conflicts, or even the girl who wears too much eye makeup and looks like a shitty corporate version of a goth chick. Being trans just isn't significant in my day to day life and it sort of irritates the fuck out of me that I'm sort of forced into that identity by simple things like getting a job selling clothes over Xmas.