Moving on from Cruelty
How do you know when you have crossed the line and rationalizing is more like excusing? It’s amazing how easy it is to dismiss poor behavior with a convenient excuse. You make the excuse, rationalize the behavior, and you move forward. It’s scary how simple it is to excuse casually awful behavior. Maybe the quality of a person can be determined by the degree of cruelty in which they are comfortable excusing. I wonder how rapists, murderers, and child molesters move forward with their lives. Is it just as simple for them? I wonder if the visual of the moment when they did horrendous acts is often present in their consciousness. How do they cope with the fact that they destroyed a part of someone else’s life and ultimately destroyed part of our world? When the thought crops into their mind, how do they get rid it? What makes that thought disappear and allow them to continue with their lives? How do they explain themselves to their loved ones? Do they explain themselves? Or is it simply a period in their life when they did bad things and it doesn’t matter anymore. What’s done is done as they say. And their loved ones have to get by without thinking about it.
How do you deal with the cruelty that is directed towards your loved ones? I know how difficult it is for me to dismiss the visual of cruelty that has happened to the ones that I love. In a way, I think it might be harder for the loved ones than the victims to move forward from the cruel acts. You never know what officially happened. You don’t know how painful it was to the person that is so dear to you. You can’t see the face of the victimizer. You can’t look into their eyes and begin to guess the motivation behind their awful behavior. You can’t look into their eyes and wonder if they felt a twinge of guilt or sadness or if they just felt pure pleasure in what they were doing. You don’t know how they walked away from the act. You are left to imagine the excruciating details even though you don’t want to.
How do you deal with the cruelty that is directed towards your loved ones? I know how difficult it is for me to dismiss the visual of cruelty that has happened to the ones that I love. In a way, I think it might be harder for the loved ones than the victims to move forward from the cruel acts. You never know what officially happened. You don’t know how painful it was to the person that is so dear to you. You can’t see the face of the victimizer. You can’t look into their eyes and begin to guess the motivation behind their awful behavior. You can’t look into their eyes and wonder if they felt a twinge of guilt or sadness or if they just felt pure pleasure in what they were doing. You don’t know how they walked away from the act. You are left to imagine the excruciating details even though you don’t want to.