Indeed, and I am probably going to do exactly that. K is less a fan of the general "throw money at problem to make it go away" strategy (and indeed I think I didn't use to as much always, but as time goes on the available money/free time ratio makes it seem more attractive) and also has more delicate lady-garments that she doesn't trust to other people. Already I nearly fucked up one of her dresses by accidentally including it in one of my loads at home.
Tangent: what is the usage of the lady-X construction? It carries an ironic air, and sometimes it's irony where the speaker is attributing to someone else the attitude that would say it non-ironically (which is pretty well disused). "After the Nineteenth Amendment many social critics were concerned that lady-votes were swayed by fickle emotion."
But it also comes pretty much bleached of that irony, I think. Maybe there's "haha not like we are those people who would say it non-ironically."
Yeah, I'd say you're hitting the nail on the head with that last sentence. I am somehow intending to access/appropriate the foundationally sexist/dismissive/mocking association between the word and fragility, while simultaneously making fun of the notion that I am a person who would straightforwardly say "ah, those fickle lady-voters", also by deliberately picking altilexical words like "garment". The fact of the matter is that she does have many bits of clothing which are more easily fucked up by being mislaundered. I understand it as mutual knowledge that she's thoroughly comfortable that this one fact happens to align with gender-expectations, and she makes plenty of choices that don't so align, and that's great, and the humor I think somehow comes from understanding that, uh, a stopped clock... I mean coin-flip... is right 50% of the days anyway. Something like that
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Ah, I think you've hit more nails on the head: 1) that it's often deployed where something is gender-normative, to express/affirm a shared sense that it's not causally conforming. 2) and even a shared sense that it's totes not causal because if it were anything sub-totes, the joke would be risky, and it's not like that, right? "You know I wouldn't say this if I didn't know you're comfortable with it due to our sufficient anti-sexism."
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But it also comes pretty much bleached of that irony, I think. Maybe there's "haha not like we are those people who would say it non-ironically."
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