Once you've converted it's supposedly prohibited to remind you that you're a convert, but this rarely happens in practice. If you ever move and join a new temple, they will likely ask you where and who converted you on your paperwork (this is the case for he Reform shul I'm thinking about joining in my new city). Your Hebrew name will "out" you as well because you will be ben Avraham v'Sarah, which is a dead giveaway if you're ever called for an Aliyah. Regardless of your given name, people will always ask you where you come from and they will want to play Jewish Geography with you. You won't be very good at it. As a Reform convert this is something you are just going to have to learn to let roll of your back
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The acceptance thing is really hard, and from both angles. I converted Conservative, and I struggle with the fact that no matter how frum a lifestyle I might live, I will never be Jewish to some people. A completely secular Jew will always be more Jewish than hypothetically-uber-frum me. That sucks, and more than that, it hurts. But Orthodoxy is kinda shaking apart from the inside out these days, and even if I had converted Orthodox there would still be people who would never consider me Jewish. So I decided not to care
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Oh believe me, this is something I have struggled with on a daily basis. I honestly am not that attached to the Reform movement as a whole (actually, I'm just not a huge fan of labels in general) in spite of converting with a Reform rabbi. I'm definitely not Orthodox, for various reasons, and am ideologically probably more in line with the Conservative movement, but honestly--the closest Conservative shul to my old place (we recently moved) was not really noticeably different from our Reform shul. There's such a huge spectrum of observance across both movements that I think it's a bit silly to try to fit any one of them into any sort of box, and what it comes down to for me is the community that you connect with. Our old shul felt like home, and so that's where I converted. Our new shul is more conservative in some ways although it's still affiliated with the Reform movement (it's Reform or Chabad in our new city or you can drive 40+ miles to shul every week, which is...no. We are totally down with doing Chabad events and stuff, but
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Yeah, for me it really comes down to the fact that with so many people willing to tell any one of us we're not Jewish, we shouldn't be doing that crap to each other. Regardless of movement affiliation. The two words I hate more than any other two words together are "halachically Jewish". I've only ever seen them use to exclude someone
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