What's a friends list?
I don’t often understand when people don’t answer to a comment. Call me delusional or naïve. I know , I know , I hear you say that we’re all busy with our life . But when you see the same person commenting elsewhere ( that means she has the time , right ?) but not taking the time to reply to you ?
Some posts receive fifty comments, and according to the subject the person who made the original post doesn’t always decide to answer to each one of them. It happens , it’s the way of things on lj. There’s nothing wrong with that.Like it happens that an author who posts a fic doesn't have the time to respond to the reviews because he/she is overwhelmed with other things. Sometimes.
But why some nice people ALWAYS try to reply to a comment made in their journal ( for a fic or something else) , whereas others don’t ?
I’ve seen writers answering to forty , sixty reviews. And writers not bothering to reply to five.
What does a friends- list mean ? When you have more than 200 people on it , what do you expect from it ? Honestly , can you care about so many people ? It’s not criticism by the way , it’s a question.
How do you read so many posts in the morning , or at the end of the day ?
I guess friending is based on the need to read a fic , enjoy artwork , or simply have the pleasure to listen to what someone has to say on different matters.
For me the sweetest consequence of friending is to become close to a person. We all have a bunch of closer friends on our flist, however huge the list is. Those who are (almost) always there for you : for a review , for a nice word, for congratulations , for a hug, for an advice given because you need it.Of course you can miss a post.
Some days you write in your journal and you(secretly?) expect them to be here. And they’re not. They’re on lj , but not for you.
It happens . Once , twice.. The kindest woman (or man) isn’t always at their friend' s disposal.. When it’s on a regular basis, you’re left pondering.
And yet doesn’t it feel good to develop a mutual friendship ? Doesn’t it feel nice to develop respect ?
Sometimes you read a post from a dear friend , but you ‘re in a rush. And you don’t leave a comment. But shouldn’t we be able to write something one day , two days later , especially if the post is about personal matters? Is it so hard to take a few minutes and write a few words ?
If you’re here. If you’re around.
Lj is about interaction , communication. But it had to work both ways. Some people spend time leaving comments , showing that they care , and if the others don’t think to do the same in return , what to think? There can only be hurt and disappointment.
I guess we all wait for something different from our flist.
But is it ridiculous to want a wonderful, sharing experience ?
Why ask for my heart if you aren't ready to show me yours?
Giving is sweet , warming, makes you heart all fluttering with glee. But receiving is so lovely , and comforting.
Some posts receive fifty comments, and according to the subject the person who made the original post doesn’t always decide to answer to each one of them. It happens , it’s the way of things on lj. There’s nothing wrong with that.Like it happens that an author who posts a fic doesn't have the time to respond to the reviews because he/she is overwhelmed with other things. Sometimes.
But why some nice people ALWAYS try to reply to a comment made in their journal ( for a fic or something else) , whereas others don’t ?
I’ve seen writers answering to forty , sixty reviews. And writers not bothering to reply to five.
What does a friends- list mean ? When you have more than 200 people on it , what do you expect from it ? Honestly , can you care about so many people ? It’s not criticism by the way , it’s a question.
How do you read so many posts in the morning , or at the end of the day ?
I guess friending is based on the need to read a fic , enjoy artwork , or simply have the pleasure to listen to what someone has to say on different matters.
For me the sweetest consequence of friending is to become close to a person. We all have a bunch of closer friends on our flist, however huge the list is. Those who are (almost) always there for you : for a review , for a nice word, for congratulations , for a hug, for an advice given because you need it.Of course you can miss a post.
Some days you write in your journal and you(secretly?) expect them to be here. And they’re not. They’re on lj , but not for you.
It happens . Once , twice.. The kindest woman (or man) isn’t always at their friend' s disposal.. When it’s on a regular basis, you’re left pondering.
And yet doesn’t it feel good to develop a mutual friendship ? Doesn’t it feel nice to develop respect ?
Sometimes you read a post from a dear friend , but you ‘re in a rush. And you don’t leave a comment. But shouldn’t we be able to write something one day , two days later , especially if the post is about personal matters? Is it so hard to take a few minutes and write a few words ?
If you’re here. If you’re around.
Lj is about interaction , communication. But it had to work both ways. Some people spend time leaving comments , showing that they care , and if the others don’t think to do the same in return , what to think? There can only be hurt and disappointment.
I guess we all wait for something different from our flist.
But is it ridiculous to want a wonderful, sharing experience ?
Why ask for my heart if you aren't ready to show me yours?
Giving is sweet , warming, makes you heart all fluttering with glee. But receiving is so lovely , and comforting.