It's not binary. Repeat after me. It's NOT BINARY.
Go paint. But don't cut him off. Your creative energy is angry that he's using you up. Be fair to your creativity and give it a little play. When you miss him, then give him a little play.
Hi. I identify with this situation. I don't know who started the idea that when you are in a serious relationship or a marriage that you turn into someone who is always in bed by 10, goes to home depot on Friday nights, and has no friends.
There needs to be a certain amount of stability and space, but who says you can't grow and become a better you with someone? There are so many things that I want to do. Go to Europe, write a book, own a house... But I couldn't imagine doing those things without the love of my life- Joe- by my side. As long as they feel the same way and still respect your individuality, things will only get better.
thanks darlin. we are actually trying to do the bed by 1 thing, because in the early stages of our relationship we spent every night out making bad decisions together. It was fun, but destructive. We are trying to grow together, to fight our vices together, and improve- but i feel like i am just standing still. he is totally supportive, i'm just a lazy butt. maybe i should ask him to make me paint for prizes or something. hrmmm :)
your story is an old common one.apathyJuly 19 2008, 02:42:08 UTC
im attracted to mentor type of men. people i look up to and want to be. this was common practice in ancient times such as in Greece, usually between boy and man and girl and woman and ended up being sexual too. Not that they have to be older but its the whole being attracted to someone who can help you because you admire them for their qualities. so i'm attracted to very hard-working musicians.
date a passionate hard working painter then or someone else that you admire greatly! don't settle for something you really don't need, don't evade your true love because you fear it, don't be weak. but then again if you really desired something you wouldn't neglect it. you need to build a stronger bond with yourself and your art.
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Go paint. But don't cut him off. Your creative energy is angry that he's using you up. Be fair to your creativity and give it a little play. When you miss him, then give him a little play.
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IT'S NOT BINARY.
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I identify with this situation.
I don't know who started the idea that when you are in a serious relationship or a marriage that you turn into someone who is always in bed by 10, goes to home depot on Friday nights, and has no friends.
There needs to be a certain amount of stability and space,
but who says you can't grow and become a better you with someone?
There are so many things that I want to do.
Go to Europe, write a book, own a house...
But I couldn't imagine doing those things without the love of my life- Joe- by my side.
As long as they feel the same way and still respect your individuality, things will only get better.
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we are actually trying to do the bed by 1 thing, because in the early stages of our relationship we spent every night out making bad decisions together. It was fun, but destructive. We are trying to grow together, to fight our vices together, and improve- but i feel like i am just standing still.
he is totally supportive, i'm just a lazy butt. maybe i should ask him to make me paint for prizes or something. hrmmm :)
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date a passionate hard working painter then or someone else that you admire greatly! don't settle for something you really don't need, don't evade your true love because you fear it, don't be weak. but then again if you really desired something you wouldn't neglect it. you need to build a stronger bond with yourself and your art.
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this is really good advice.
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