Official
Well. For any of you who were involved in any conversation with me about flirting:
You were right. All of you. I was wrong.
Yes, I am a humongous flirt by most people's standards.
And, you might be curious ... what brought this admission of wrongness on? Well my friend, *I* attended a flirting class. I wanted to see, once and for all, what people outside of my circle thought about flirting. What is it? When do they consider it flirting? Etc. Maybe even pick up a technique or two. I also figured that if people were going to be calling me a flirt, I might as well know *why*.
And basically it comes down to this - my internalized definition of flirting holds to a much higher standard than most peoples. A summary of my definition includes two important factors:
1) Intent.
2) An elevation of sexual tension.
This however, is not included in most people's definition
So ya. Im wrong all. My bad.
The scary part about all of this was found when I was admitting this wrongality to some women I know. When I told them about my class attendance, they laughed. "What are you taking that for? Like you need it" was the common theme. But more importantly ... one woman said, "Did you teach the class? Thats silly, youre like a professional flirter. You flirt with EVERYONE. I bet you were killing them in there, and probably didnt even know it."
The woman who said this ... is married. And pregnant. And has a HUGE husband. Who doesnt really like me too much.
Did I accidentally flirt with this woman a few times?! I dunno. I hope not - that would be rude! But I should probably be more careful. (insert spiderman quote if you really wanna).
Oi.
You were right. All of you. I was wrong.
Yes, I am a humongous flirt by most people's standards.
And, you might be curious ... what brought this admission of wrongness on? Well my friend, *I* attended a flirting class. I wanted to see, once and for all, what people outside of my circle thought about flirting. What is it? When do they consider it flirting? Etc. Maybe even pick up a technique or two. I also figured that if people were going to be calling me a flirt, I might as well know *why*.
And basically it comes down to this - my internalized definition of flirting holds to a much higher standard than most peoples. A summary of my definition includes two important factors:
1) Intent.
2) An elevation of sexual tension.
This however, is not included in most people's definition
So ya. Im wrong all. My bad.
The scary part about all of this was found when I was admitting this wrongality to some women I know. When I told them about my class attendance, they laughed. "What are you taking that for? Like you need it" was the common theme. But more importantly ... one woman said, "Did you teach the class? Thats silly, youre like a professional flirter. You flirt with EVERYONE. I bet you were killing them in there, and probably didnt even know it."
The woman who said this ... is married. And pregnant. And has a HUGE husband. Who doesnt really like me too much.
Did I accidentally flirt with this woman a few times?! I dunno. I hope not - that would be rude! But I should probably be more careful. (insert spiderman quote if you really wanna).
Oi.