and if i'm beheaded at least i was wedded- my thoughts on marriage in my life

[ivy_chan]

I've known I never wanted to get married long before I knew I was asexual. Asexuality is such an unknown quantity in the sexuality spectrum that I was long past high school before I even heard of the term- which is sad, because then it would have saved me at least two botched dating attempts. But marriage, well. The only windows I had into the

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[scdsam]

You bring up some very good insights that I'd never considered before. My childhood friend was vehemently anti-marriage, and she had an extremely abusive father and damaged home life

[ivy_chan]

First: I am very, very glad to hear about married couples sleeping separately! I think sometimes when people ar ein each other's space all the time it's easier to get annoyed by them. I know that happens to ME, and I'm not a special snowflake, so other people must feel this way, too

[scdsam]

LOL I agree with the personal space thing. I've claimed the office and my husband has claimed the living room and even though we love hanging out, there's also many happy evenings spent in our separate places doing separate things.

I agree your dad sounds like he's pretty bitter about your mother's successfulness. It's such a shame that you (marriage ideals aside) have to be exposed to such a toxic situation.

YES marriage needs a serious overhauling, and I agree that gay marriage would be an amazing start. The fact that so many religious nutjobs have claimed marriage as "god's gift to man + woman" is probably the base to a lot of present day marital issues anyway O_o

[scdsam]

...did I mention I agree a lot?

[redbrunja]

That article is AWESOME. I wish more people where willing to admit what they needed and make unique lives that make them happy.