middle of the night updates

[ityellsback]

are always really good ideas, right?

okay so
M, can I ask you don't read this? yet, at least?
you can if you really want, or you can ask me what it says in rl and I'll tell you
but, no offense, you are pretty low on the list of people I care if this offends right now. I'll edit to make sure it is not mean to you at a time that isn't 2 in the morning.

so

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Re: Saw note at top and did not read as per request, but herein is my apology

[ityellsback]

yeah, and I'm sorry for the yelliness that is me in arguments. You could read this, if you so desired, I think, with the understanding that it is not REALLY directed at you. It came out of the feelings I had post-argument, rather than feelings directed at you.

I guess I should've told you, I had the stressful experience of hearing a man on a train in Chicago explaining to his friend why exactly trans* people are "wrong" and "need to go by the names their mothers gave them". It was upsetting to have that direct confirmation that yes, there are people who make moral judgments and actually express/act according to those judgments to the extent of shaming other people and refusing to comply with requests for pronoun use/name changes.

So this is much more directed at him, really, than you, and the anger is here is certainly not at you.

I am still trying to parse through my feelings of "doing nothing" instead of "at least talking about it positively". I feel there's something wrong in my automatic feeling of that's not okay, and I need a bit more time to figure out how to talk about that bit. But I'm not angry at you now, and yes our friendship will prevail!

Re: Saw note at top and did not read as per request, but herein is my apology

[ladymercury_10]

Ugh, that is not a conversation anyone would like to hear on a train. That sucks.

No worries as far as yelliness goes...we've all been there. :P And I'm very glad we're friends. :)