middle of the night updates
are always really good ideas, right?
okay so
M, can I ask you don't read this? yet, at least?
you can if you really want, or you can ask me what it says in rl and I'll tell you
but, no offense, you are pretty low on the list of people I care if this offends right now. I'll edit to make sure it is not mean to you at a time that isn't 2 in the morning.
so this is about bodies and how we relate to them. and also society being an ass. Lots of bad words and bits touching on trans* issues. This is about how other people relate to their bodies and how it doesn't actually matter to anyone but them.
No, no I don't think I need any fucking evidence. I don't need evidence that their decision (or biology) is morally "right".
Society does not have a good track record with this shit. They've gotten it wrong again and again and again. What other people do with their bodies (whether it's how they present that body, or how many piercings they put in it, or who they use that body to have sex with, or what bits they want to add or take away) is not our problem. But the fact that society keeps trying to get everyone to conform to what they have deemed to be "correct" is. Because society doing that to people is harmful to their well being.
What's it actually matter if it's biological? Of course it's significant and interesting if it is or isn't, but I really don't think it matters one way or another. Given that your relationship to your body is non harmful, it is not my business either way. As a note, as with most things relating to gender and sexuality and bodies, I can't think of it as a choice. A lot of people want to relate to their body in one way but that has little to no effect on how they actually do relate to their body.
My opinion is that everyone should be allowed to talk about, relate to, and change their body in whatever way makes them happiest. Actually happiest.
Of course there are people that are mistaken about what will make them happiest and there are people incapable of decision making, but that is for them, the people that care for them, and their psychologist to worry about, not you. (Unless it's a lot of people forming shitty opinions based on the bullshit society is telling them, in which case it becomes your problem in that you are part of society.)
Everyone's body is different and the way that everyone relates to their body is different, and I cannot think that any body or any nonharmful way of relating to your body is wrong. (with nonharmful meaning not leading to or contributing to lasting physical or psychological harm).
So, no, I don't need 'evidence' to support the way people want to talk about their bodies or their gender or their sexuality. It's their body, they should be allowed to relate to their body how they want and expect other people to respect that relationship as legitimate.
ugh I hope this is not horribly problematic, if it is for the love of cupcakes tell me, I've probably worded something atrociously incorrectly or left out some incredibly important qualifier and I'll need to fix when it is not 2 am.
okay so
M, can I ask you don't read this? yet, at least?
you can if you really want, or you can ask me what it says in rl and I'll tell you
but, no offense, you are pretty low on the list of people I care if this offends right now. I'll edit to make sure it is not mean to you at a time that isn't 2 in the morning.
so this is about bodies and how we relate to them. and also society being an ass. Lots of bad words and bits touching on trans* issues. This is about how other people relate to their bodies and how it doesn't actually matter to anyone but them.
No, no I don't think I need any fucking evidence. I don't need evidence that their decision (or biology) is morally "right".
Society does not have a good track record with this shit. They've gotten it wrong again and again and again. What other people do with their bodies (whether it's how they present that body, or how many piercings they put in it, or who they use that body to have sex with, or what bits they want to add or take away) is not our problem. But the fact that society keeps trying to get everyone to conform to what they have deemed to be "correct" is. Because society doing that to people is harmful to their well being.
What's it actually matter if it's biological? Of course it's significant and interesting if it is or isn't, but I really don't think it matters one way or another. Given that your relationship to your body is non harmful, it is not my business either way. As a note, as with most things relating to gender and sexuality and bodies, I can't think of it as a choice. A lot of people want to relate to their body in one way but that has little to no effect on how they actually do relate to their body.
My opinion is that everyone should be allowed to talk about, relate to, and change their body in whatever way makes them happiest. Actually happiest.
Of course there are people that are mistaken about what will make them happiest and there are people incapable of decision making, but that is for them, the people that care for them, and their psychologist to worry about, not you. (Unless it's a lot of people forming shitty opinions based on the bullshit society is telling them, in which case it becomes your problem in that you are part of society.)
Everyone's body is different and the way that everyone relates to their body is different, and I cannot think that any body or any nonharmful way of relating to your body is wrong. (with nonharmful meaning not leading to or contributing to lasting physical or psychological harm).
So, no, I don't need 'evidence' to support the way people want to talk about their bodies or their gender or their sexuality. It's their body, they should be allowed to relate to their body how they want and expect other people to respect that relationship as legitimate.
ugh I hope this is not horribly problematic, if it is for the love of cupcakes tell me, I've probably worded something atrociously incorrectly or left out some incredibly important qualifier and I'll need to fix when it is not 2 am.