I was wrong about marriage

[ishai_wallace]

I did not put much time, and even less money into the campaign for equal marriage in Canada. Sure, I wrote a few letters to politicians, and I said publicly "that if the government was going to be in the business of legislating relationships, it should be available to all." but I was not "active" on the issue. I put my time and energy into other,

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[avnerd]

As always, you write beautifully and eloquently about important issues. I'm very much in the camp of "Gay Marriage™ is not my issue" and while I can see the benefits of what marriage can make easier for some, I hate that what it really says is that there is only one way to do things. There is one way to make it easier to bring a partner across the border to be with you, there is one way to get a discount on taxes (why does a couple deserve a break over a single? I really don't get that one), there is one way to be able to have people who are not gay see you as enough like them to tolerate you a little bit more. I worry for the gay youth who might start feeling pressured to 'legitimize' their relationships at very young ages and bring upon themselves more interference from church and state than any generation of queer youth before them. I worry that someday I will want to visit my partner in hospital and will be told that if I had just done things the *right* way (ie: marriage) then things wouldn't be so complicated. I really

[ishai_wallace]

Thank you. Thank you for good brain fodder, and a view from a different vantage