I find it fascinating
When Eric and I were first together and living here in Austin (not so much in Huron), it seemed like women over a certain age felt the need to constantly ask if we were planning on getting married, starting a family, and all the other joys that come with it. Apparently they never seemed happy with my answer of being happy where we were. And honestly, I was coming off an engagement with the Kiwi and Eric came off the bi-and-indecisive-about-what-I-want-but-only-when-I-feel-it-would-upset-you-most chick, and finding someone we both could easily settle into a relaxed relationship with without pressure was perfect. I'd almost say within the first six months, we were pretty much settled and neither of us saw much point of making a big deal out of things.
But now that I've reached my mid thirties, I find it amazing how I've gone from middle aged women pestering me about marrying Eric to early twenty something GUYS. One in particular seems hellbent on asking me at least once a month why we haven't gotten married and if we want kids. If we had kids, would we marry? Although I think he's concerned we're going to rob the government of our hard earned shared income tax monies more than having someone point at a child of ours and scream "BASTARD!" And like the little old biddies before him, he doesn't seem content with my answer of being happy where we are and keeps pressing me on WHY we aren't officially hitched. In fact he's almost worse than the old ladies, constantly asking why I wouldn't want pictures all over the house of me in a pretty white gown *blarg!* and Eric in a tux (okay, I wouldn't mind seeing it just once, but I know he'd hate it). When I tell him I don't like photos of me, he still bugs me about it. Nothing I have ever said has placated him. It isn't just him, but the other young guys at work seem more curious than insistent on getting an answer that pleases them.
Did I ever ponder what it would be like if Eric did ask me? Eh... maybe once or twice. But I know I'd be the one picking out my own ring, so it's not like it would be a big surprise. Especially after we've been together for 10 years, too. We have talked about it, just never very seriously. A few years back I found some awesome Celtic style his/her rings and said they would be perfect for us as wedding rings, but it didn't go much further than just talking about it.
I doubt our lives would change much. Spending money for blood tests and a marriage license seems like more of a hassle than it's worth. I'm sure both our families would like us to marry, but they also aren't pressuring us into it.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again... When you hear the marriage announcement from me, it will most likely be followed by "and the baby is due in ...."
*LOL*
But now that I've reached my mid thirties, I find it amazing how I've gone from middle aged women pestering me about marrying Eric to early twenty something GUYS. One in particular seems hellbent on asking me at least once a month why we haven't gotten married and if we want kids. If we had kids, would we marry? Although I think he's concerned we're going to rob the government of our hard earned shared income tax monies more than having someone point at a child of ours and scream "BASTARD!" And like the little old biddies before him, he doesn't seem content with my answer of being happy where we are and keeps pressing me on WHY we aren't officially hitched. In fact he's almost worse than the old ladies, constantly asking why I wouldn't want pictures all over the house of me in a pretty white gown *blarg!* and Eric in a tux (okay, I wouldn't mind seeing it just once, but I know he'd hate it). When I tell him I don't like photos of me, he still bugs me about it. Nothing I have ever said has placated him. It isn't just him, but the other young guys at work seem more curious than insistent on getting an answer that pleases them.
Did I ever ponder what it would be like if Eric did ask me? Eh... maybe once or twice. But I know I'd be the one picking out my own ring, so it's not like it would be a big surprise. Especially after we've been together for 10 years, too. We have talked about it, just never very seriously. A few years back I found some awesome Celtic style his/her rings and said they would be perfect for us as wedding rings, but it didn't go much further than just talking about it.
I doubt our lives would change much. Spending money for blood tests and a marriage license seems like more of a hassle than it's worth. I'm sure both our families would like us to marry, but they also aren't pressuring us into it.
I've said it before, and I'll say it again... When you hear the marriage announcement from me, it will most likely be followed by "and the baby is due in ...."
*LOL*