Another INFJ post - I am too curious for your feedback (intuitive communication)

[orange_coat]

NF who is once again curious for your NT perspective. Here is a post which I copy-pasted from the INFJ comm:

Comments

[night_princess]

> Why would we assume that we are more likeable if the loved ones around us had to telepathically figure us out?

I don't. I thought that was just a bad stereotype.

> I have no idea what the psychology behind that is

My first reaction was that silly little girls watched too much Disney and didn't realize it was fantasy.

OK, just for fun, if I wanted to randomly speculate... There might arguably be support for this in terms of evolution: babies can't talk, so if the mother can figure out what the baby needs without being explicitly told, then the baby is more likely to be survive. Mothers are supposed to be hormonally wired to love their babies, but hormones are messy and not very precise. So, sometimes the signals get crossed, and they think that all "true love" requires psychic insight into the loved one's needs.

> (humans are more quick to want to be understood.. rather than be the one who is understanding).

No, I prefer to understand than be understood. My underlying instincts give me positive feedback when I understand, but I have to consciously suppress fight/flight reactions if others manage to "psychically" understand me.