Do you eat together?

Jan 25, 2005 11:24

dom_ino and I were talking last night, and the topic of queer family structures came up. He and a mutual Faerie friend had been talking, comparing their relationship structures ( Read more... )

queerness, faeries, beth, sex, questions, family

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creepy1966 January 25 2005, 19:53:51 UTC
I got a lot of ideas about family and family-by-proxy,but I guess I'm not really qualified for this one...Waaaayyy over my head.

For me,family is not just blood or relation through marriage.
Hell,I consider you family...True friends are family.

I'll shut up now.

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ink_ling January 25 2005, 21:45:22 UTC
Compadre! You are completely qualified to talk about this! In fact, one thing I had in the back of my head when I was writing this was how we'd talked -- in your car, when I came to visit -- about how you saw family in other terms, how it had more to do with commitment and friendship and availability than it did with blood or contracts.

I'd love to hear more of your ideas on the subject. Don't you be clappin' your trap on me, Bub!

And thank you for recognizing me as part of your family, B; that actually does mean a lot to me, and I am happy to consider you part of mine, too.

Now speak up! :)

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creepy1966 January 25 2005, 22:02:09 UTC
Well,you have the gist of my ideas..It's almost communal,but not at all,either,due to the fact that I'm a mean-spirited,selfish fucker.
Close friends are family...You,Arturo..I consider you both to be Lillian's uncles,and refer to you as such(even if'n ya don't wanna be).
If you're at my home,you're welcome to anything you want or need.I'll help with anything you need,and expect nothing in return.

Granted,none of this extends to sexuality,but I don't go for any of that anyway,as I'm a notorious prude.
Still,it's family...and it has nothing to do with blood relations.
There are different degrees of these feelings,and they don't extend to but a handful of people.

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ink_ling January 25 2005, 22:23:45 UTC
Man, you gonna make me give you one of those hugs that you feel varyingly uncomfortable with! :: Bends over and wheeze-coughs and laughs simultaneously ::

Cool! I'm L's uncle! That fuckin' pleases me!

(Have to tell you, though: you get labeled a "straight queer" in my book, whether you're kindly to it or not ...!)

Thanks again ... :) Brother!

Now when you gonna haul your ass over here again? I done tol' you last time that it's your turn!

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creepy1966 January 25 2005, 22:38:37 UTC
P'shaaw...

I'm gonna have to come over soon..Lillian was talking about coming to your hosue yesterday and the day before,so it'll have to happen soon.
It's always good to hang out with you.
I need to find out what weekend schedules are on both sides,and hopefully the weather will bless us with some sunshine and kind temperatures.

A straight queer...I can deal with that,I guess.Hell,I'm just an anxious outsider,really.

Oh yea..I didn't pick them up,but I last went cd shopping,I found used copies of some Geraldine Fibber's...Lost Between The Earth and My Home(which was the one I had and couldn't recall the name of),and another one which I can't recall the title of.
If you want them,I'll grab them for you...They were used,and way,way cheap.

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ink_ling January 25 2005, 23:00:50 UTC
Tell L that Uncle Jason said y'all can come over any time. It's all up to her Daddy!

Hehehe! See what happens when you let weird folks in the family!

I say "straight queer", dude!

I would love those, Bubba! But if they're really cheap, please allow me to pay you for them, ok? No big deal, aight?

Come over whenever you get the chance, Buddy Ro' -- no stress or strain, though.

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creepy1966 January 25 2005, 23:10:00 UTC
She's obsessed with your sidewalks...

I'll go pick those up for ya,Mang..!

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ink_ling January 25 2005, 23:21:46 UTC
I have some of the best sidewalks in this once-fine country, Du'!

Lemme know how much they are, aight?

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