when to help
I like knowing I can count on my friends for help, and I like being able to help them too. It seems like it should all even out. The problem is that some people are just more competent than others, and so you can end up with a gradual flow of help from the more competent to the less competent. euziere generously helped me get my stuff moved out of the coop today, and I finished at the very last moment before I had to rush to the airport for my flight to North Carolina. She's not likely to get herself into a last-minute crunch like that, and so if she inspires me to help friends in need, I'm likely to end up being generous not to her, but to someone even more hapless than I am.
The solution I can see is for those of us who are disorganized and disaster-prone to make sure we are proactively, extravagantly generous and kind to our friends. In that way the free flow of slack is maintained and the world will remain a good place.
The solution I can see is for those of us who are disorganized and disaster-prone to make sure we are proactively, extravagantly generous and kind to our friends. In that way the free flow of slack is maintained and the world will remain a good place.